am i the only one who still holds doors open for people?
is it concidered sexist to hold doors open for women these days?
just how close to the door does someone have to be before it is considered rude not to hold it open?
I am always pleased when anyone, male or female holds a door open for me, and I always smile and say thank-you.
As well, I always hold doors open for other people, especially if they have their hands full, or are using a wheelchair, or something else.
It becomes uncomfortable if the person holding the door has to wait too long, though, for both people. That’s always a judgement call.
I just experience deja-vu, as I’m pretty sure we’ve covered this topic already, possibly in GQ. Anybody know for sure?
Ooh, yuck.
I meant:
“It becomes uncomfortable for both people when…”
I’m female and I always find it polite if a man holds the door open for me. I think it’s just nice. I hold doors open for people who are older or who are carrying something big.
If you want to be safe from women who do get offended by this (I’m 27 and I’ve never met one), walk through the door and hold it just so it doesn’t slam the person following you in the face. Actually, everyone should do this for anyone, man, woman, or child. I think it’s the height of rudeness to walk through without any consideration for the person behind you and when this happens to me, I have all sorts of mean curses going through my head for the person who did it.
I think all door holding can be limited for someone who’s withing 20 feet of you. If they’re any more than that, a quick nudge as you’re walking through just so that the door doesn’t slam is sufficient.
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No. And you are rude if I hold the door for you and you don’t at least acknowlege my courtesy with a nod.
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Absolutely not. Please hold the door for me at any approprate time; I will appreciate the gesture, and I will presume that you are a gentleman who has good manners, not a sexist pig who’s trying to keep me barefoot and pregnant.
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If the approaching person is a half dozen or fewer steps away, one should wait and hold the door. If your wait would be longer than four seconds, you are absolved of any responsibility and the approaching person must fend for him/herself. This might be extended to seven seconds if the door in question involves security or locking, as opposed to an ordinary door.
whew…this is good news.
i guess i will continue door-holding without assuming i have crossed the line between gentleman and chauvanist(sp?)
I always do the same. However, it pisses me off to no end when I hold the door for someone and I get no acknowledgement of ‘thanks’ from them, be it a smile, nod, or a verbal “thank you”. As if it’s expected of me. AARGH!
But, sometimes, if you are going into somewhere where there is two sets of doors (like a mall), If I hold the first door for someone, and get no thanks, yer damn skippy that the second door is going to be closed in their face. Does that make me an asshole?
Hold the door.
Hold the elevator!
Thank you. Fifth floor please.