I’ll say, the only reason we are here is because we had a living arrangement with my girlfriend’s mom because she traveled and needed a house sitter, we split rent etc and it worked for awhile until she came home one day and just didn’t go back to traveling.
She and my girlfriend don’t really get along and got into a fight one night while I was at work, she hit my girlfriend and threw her on the ground.
My girlfriend has rheumatoid arthritis so some days it’s hard for her to even move, we needed to leave for her safety.
It’s definitely not that we don’t want to pay her, as I said I have no problem paying for what we use and a bit more for the inconvenience which was going to be offered anyway but I kind of feel like she’s trying to take advantage because we’d be paying almost all of her monthly utilities including streaming subscriptions we’re not using.
It felt like the old bait and switch but it’s ok, we settled on $300 so with us hopefully being out by February, we can just pay it, move on and have a much better year alone.
LittleFox you are coming across as very entiled. You are the person in need and should be gratefull for any help you are getting.
Pesonally if you questioned my generosity I would kick you right out in the cold and you can rent a motel room for 30-60 days. How does that fit into your budget?
In my opinion, you should agree to the $400 a month, but explain that moving out is your priority. You don’t want this to become a permanent arrangement and you have no intention of becoming her tenant. Tell her you will pay $400 per month, calculated based on how long you actually end up staying there, but you will not pay it until AFTER you have moved out. Tell her you plan to be out by February 1st and you will pay the entire $400 she’s requesting, but in monthly installments of X per month (whatever you can reasonably afford), starting on the 1st of the month following your move out date. I can’t imagine how such an agreement would be unreasonable, and if she doesn’t agree to that, she isn’t a friend, nor a bridge worth saving.
If you offered someone a place to stay “for as long as necessary” with no mention of charging any rent, only to demand a week later payment of $400 a month, you’re not showing any “generosity”, you’re pulling a fucking scam. Yes $13 a day is reasonable. If that was discussed prior to the arrangement, it would have been exceptionally reasonable.
Offering a room for free and later demanding payment for it is not reasonable, regardless of the amount.
I was a renter for most of my life. The problem with renting is always uncertainty. You can get a note in the mail saying, we’re selling the place at the end of the month, you have to vacate. They can raise the rent any time for no reason. They can cut down all the trees that attracted you to the place (all that stuff has happened to me). I suppose you could look at this as a ‘rent increase.’ I’m not condoning it, it’s just the way it is.
Thank you for understanding what I’m trying to say, I dont mean to sound ungrateful as I’m not good with wording things but the situation didn’t seem right. We went with a resolution similar to what you’ve said and it has been worked out.
