Generally I would agree with you, but I thought this shirt is an exception.
I found the t-shirt funny. I wouldn’t call it douchey, but there’s a bit of immature humour to it, so I’d expect it to only be worn in really casual situations, like at a bar, the gym or the beach or something.
I am not prepared at this point to excuse otherwise douchey behavior because you’re in a wheelchair. Like I said, though, I laughed, so maybe I’m also a douche. 
I filed the “It still works” t-shirt under “gimp humor”, which is not something that appeals to everyone and, indeed, some would find the name I used for it offensive as well.
This makes it seem less douchey and actually a little more touching, actually.
You remind me of Adam Levine. I *hate *Adam Levine!
(Well, I do hate him but not because of his looks.)
It’s inappropriate. It’s making other people unwilling participants in your sex life.
:eek:
Bite your tongue, woman. There’s no comparison here. Adam and his ilk will turn my head any day of the week. Jamie not so much, even fully clothed and with the dog.
You have got to be kidding me. :rolleyes:
No.
:rolleyes: and I raise you another :rolleyes:
A reference to your sex life is hardly forcing someone else to take part in your sex life.
I think it’s a little lame but it makes me feel bad for the guy, that he’s got this insecurity about his sex life/genitalia.
So wearing my tshirt is akin to sexual abuse? I am not forcing anyone to do anything. Just like if I were to wear a Jewish kippah (sp?) out in public, I wouldn’t be forcing the Jewish faith onto anyone; I would simply be expressing my faith. (if I were jewish, that is)
Nobody said that, or anything even remotely resembling that.. L2read for comprehension.
I’m not offended by the shirt or anything, I just think it’s about as appropriate to wear outside as this one is.
It’s not an insecurity at all. It’s (the shirt) a product of years of living in a chair and experiencing the world through the prism of a paralyzed young man and (trying) to express both the frustration and humor that such a life brings.
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I would say “forcing someone to be an unwilling participant in your sexlife” is most certainly “sexual abuse”.
More accurately, other people have an “insecurity” about the sex life of the disabled.
On more than one occasion people have asked me why I married a man who couldn’t have sex. WTF? Seems there are a LOT of people who have the default assumption that disabled=non-functional penis. I didn’t really how many until after I got married to someone disabled.
Keep in mind, too, that my spouse isn’t in a wheelchair and thus doesn’t look as disabled as** Jamie,** yet these people were still somehow convinced he couldn’t have sex. I can only assume it’s worse for wheelers rather than walkers.
I have a cousin who married a quadriplegic. Lots of people refuse to believe he’s the biological father of his children.
Of course, there are some unfortunate people who can’t have sex - my spouse has a friend who fell off a cliff and among other things damaged the nerves that run the sex organs, which is most unfortunate. However, you can’t tell just by looking at someone if the equipment works or not, regardless of whether they’re walking or wheeling or limping or whatever. Yet people still make assumptions.
What are you doing lurking in a thread like this? And look at what you’re wearing. Don’t be coy; you wanted it.
I love it that you are here. 
::: kiss, kiss :::
Now, Jamie, be a dear and go threaten to run over the toes of the Big Meanies in the threads on poverty who tell me (though, of course, not in so many words) I should abandon my disabled husband as a liability because he can’t work anymore. Apparently I’m not intimidating enough.