This is good advice for people of either sex who are getting serviced. A little feedback goes a long way. And a little gratitude doesn’t hurt either. Nothing more boring for me than giving extended oral sex to someone who just sits there.
If the real issue is that you can’t just sit back and enjoy it, find a woman who first, enjoys giving blow jobs, and second, who would be willing to tie you up. If she ties you up, obviously she doesn’t expect you to do anything. That’s the whole point of tying someone up! It can be lots of fun to have a guy who’s “helpless” and to be able to do anything you want to him. And, in turn, it frees you from worrying about what to do with your hands!
uhm, 69?
And at least for me, getting feedback is nice, whether it’s on sexual techniques or my typing skills 
I had a GF who was like that. Completely unable to relax and enjoy my going down on her… until I talked her into letting me tie her up during sex.
Instead of continuing with intercourse, I switched to oral and she had no choice but to lie there and enjoy it. 3 climaxes later she changed her mind and decided she liked it. And never again did she resist my offer of oral sex before intercourse.
I see on preview that taxi78cab had the same suggestion. (How’d I miss that before?)
… I will add that Mrs Stone often preferes 69 to simple cunnilingus because when concentrating too much, she can loose her arousal. Being distracted while working on me, sometimes allows her own climax to sneak up on her.
So obviously YMMV…
well thats a thought, I’ll have to give it a try next time i’m active
I was in a similar situation as the OP, until I had a girlfriend who knew what she was doing. Wow. She didn’t like to be reciprocated until we discovered that she hadn’t had it done right either.
ggurl took them right out of mine.