I am so fucking confused by our exchanges in this thread about personality disorders, I don’t know where to start. Let’s start here: Know that in my 9 years posting on this board, I have only pitted another poster once, and that was our 1850s ‘‘black people were happier on plantations’’ racist New Deal Democrat. But nothing - and I mean *nothing *- will get you on my shit list faster that implying I’m like my mother just because I happen to disagree with you.
Why you felt the need to ruin the supportive tone of this thread with gross mischaracterizations of my statements and repeated personal attacks against me, I cannot fathom, but let me make one thing clear:
I am not pitting you because I disagree with you about what constitutes ‘stigma’ against people with Borderline Personality Disorder. That’s a perfectly valid academic discussion, it’s one I’ve had on this board, in a civil and reasonable way, countless times, and I fully acknowledge my view is not a popular one. Hell, I’ll even acknowledge the view is so unpopular, the onus is on me to support it, and maybe I didn’t do as good a job supporting it as I should have.
But generally speaking, you can believe whatever the fuck you want to believe, I’ll do my best to inform your opinion if I think it’s wrong, you’ll do the same for me and I have consistently demonstrated a willingness to consider new evidence in my analysis of any issue, no matter how emotionally charged it is for me personally. One thing I truly love about this board is the ability to have civil conversations about such things, and to learn new things.
But let’s be very, very clear about what happened here. I civilly disagreed with you about a thing. I asserted that a particular view espoused by a particular psychologist is stigmatizing and inaccurate, you said nuh-huh, I explained why I disagree, and even included an illustrative example from my own life to explain why I felt as strongly as I do.
You responded to that assertion with insulting, mischaracterizing bullshit.
I quoted from the motherfucking Harvard Review of Psychiatry in an attempt to reframe the discussion as one based on evidence, and told you that your personal insults were out of line.
You obviously ignored the vast majority of my posts in that thread (since you lectured me almost verbatim with facts that I’d already provided upthread), therefore I have to assume you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about. If you think civil disagreement on an internet message board is anywhere in the realm of abusive behavior, you’re luckier than me. I was raised by a woman who threatened to shoot me in the face with a shotgun, allowed her husband to molest me, routinely punched holes in my walls, hit me in the head so many times my neurologist theorizes this is why I have epilepsy, and who generally made my life a living hell for 33 years.
That you would deign to compare me to the woman who did this to me in a thread in which I described the experience as very painful is beyond my ability to comprehend.
Since you attempted, for no obvious reason, to use my most painful life experiences against me to prove whatever self-righteous point you’re trying to make, I have to assume you are one of the most unfeeling, callous, disrespectful people I have ever had the displeasure to encounter.
I’ve spent my entire life dedicated to understanding what made my mother the way she is and striving to not be that way. I have always sought to take responsibility for my actions and to be fair and reasonable in all of my relationships. In order to make sure I was being fair given how emotionally charged this subject is, I ran that thread by like ten people whose judgment I trust to ensure you really are acting like a total asshole. All signs point to YES.
I am no longer interested in a civil conversation with you. You can take what you think you know about me and shove it up your ass.
