No, really back in the day I was somewhat of a promiscuous girl and had had my fair share of all types and sizes. However, I met one guy that I decided I would wait to really develop a good relationship with him before doing the deed. Well, he had one big penis myth trait- this guy was 6’3 so I was pretty confident I would get my fill (groan).
So the fatefull night arrives and as he goes to get it in I am like hello is it there(mentally, of course) and yes he worked it all that he could like he would wow me with his technique and I am having a mental discourse with myself regarding the situation. I was like he is trying to park a bike in the garage! And I reasoned that if I let him continue, then I was misleading him and no better than the one night stand I was trying to not portray. So I started to cry at the total injustice of going without only to be cheated and he stopped and asked me what was wrong. I ran into the walk in closet, got dressed and came out to apologize to him profusely, saying it was all my fault and that I still hadn’t gotten over some made up boyfriend. Well he sat in my bed in total wonderment and was like, “Man why does this always happen to me?”
I was actually just checking to see if my wife came in here (Yippee, it is as big as I think :D)
Then I saw YB’s post, and I wanted to say that if any of the 33,000 dopers out there is a male with a penis this small, don’t take it personally. Just because she’s seen a relative sample of the enitire male population and never witnessed anything so small in her life doesn’t mean you’re too small.
To misquote a Spider Robinson line, “I see fingers and a tongue from here. Everything else is gravy.”
I mean, you can buy a 10-inch penis substitute if you really need one. Lesbians manage to get off quite nicely with or without such devices. A dick is nice, but for all that, it’s not really neccessary unless you’re trying to conceive.
I’ve had one longer-than-average guy and two who are average or slightly shorter. I’ve found that tightening my Kegels more than made up the difference. That might not work for a micropenis, but for a fellow who’s just a bit short, it shouldn’t be an issue. Besides, a eunuch could reach the clitoris. 3 inches is enough to hit most G-spots. Unless you can only get off on the sensitive spot behind the cervix (does that have a hip, trendy sexological name yet? the C-spot?), width is more important than length for penetrative vaginal sex anyway - and technique and a willingness to take feedback are more important than either.
BHWAHAHAHA…oh man, that sounds like the name of a porno!
For the record, having NO experience in um, measuring, I have NO idea what size is supposed to be average, big, or small. So any size would probably be considered “big” by me, since the ones I’ve seen in porn pics scare the bejeezus out of me and make me run screaming for the hills.
I dated a guy like this too. I wasn’t particularly concerned; however, he would always go on and on about how HUGE he was.
I wasn’t about to lie and agree with him. I always used to say “It’s fine.” which didn’t really make him jump up and down with glee, but I didn’t know what else to do.
Hate to say this, but if a virgin guy doesn’t get a good lesson in what to expect ahead of time, a vagina can be scary or even repulsive the first time he sees/touches it.
As a virgin guy at age 20, no one had told me beforehand that an aroused vagina was supposed to be damp. When I finally got to touch a vagina for the first time, the particular young lady who had given me the honor was very damp indeed. I didn’t say “ewww!” to her or anything, but I was thinking it, especially at first. It took me two days of introspection to come to grips (so to speak) with the reality of what a vagina was really like, as opposed to what I’d previously surmised it would be like, before I finally understood how good such a thing would feel if my penis were inside it.
Of course, by the time I saw her again, she’d lost interest in me, and I never did get to go past 3rd base with her – so those of you who are of the opinion that guys who react as though a vagina is “icky” deserve to be lonely can feel vindicated.
We had an extremely awkward conversation after about the fifteen millionth time I tried to wear a tampon.
You see, though, you just don’t bring it up during intimate moments. In your post, you said that you didn’t say “ewww” or anything. He did.
Additionally, he had no problems placing his member in there, or asking me to pleasure his member. When it came to touching my member, however, that was an entirely different story (the subject of oral never came up).
alice_in_wonderland and Zette, I also dated a guy who had a smaller penis who was constantly bragging about how big it was. He had a picture taken of his dick up close and it did indeed look large until you realized that his face in the far background was merely a pinpoint speck. It is amazing what perspective can do to one’s naught bits. Anyway, in real life, it was about as big around as one of those jumbo crayolas but not nearly as long. He had small balls too and when he wasn’t hard, it looked like his penis was a third testicle. I still wonder how that happened.
I’d have to say that myself, size is not an issue.
In all honesty, I actually tend to prefer guys with endowments on the smaller side, and mainly for the reasons that gobear mentioned. I’ve fooled around with guys who were quite small (~3.5 inches erect) and it wasn’t really an impediment or anything. Actually it was quite nice being able to do anything orally with that much ease. Plus they tend to think that I am friggin huge.
And, as with matt_mcl I’ve had a few of the “You want to put THAT where???” guys who were, for me, too large.
I’d have to say too large is more of an impediment.
I think that most men, actually underestimate their size in comparison to other guys. I always considered myself small, prior to me actually gaining any sexual experience, simply because when not erect, it is pretty small. I always figured that since I had seen a lot of other guys who were larger when flaccid, that it would only make sense that they would be larger when erect too.
Which in a lot of cases I’ve noticed, isn’t really the case.
What I neglected to mention was that I did say, “This is so alien to me.” Which wasn’t too bad, I guess, considering it was my first time at 3rd base, but still I’m sure it kinda sounded funny. Oh, and I still fingered her to (what I presume was) orgasm, though.
The subject of oral did come up with her. She brought it up, by asking, “Do you want to eat me?” My first thought was, “You mean drink you, don’t you?” (Did I mention she was very very damp, and that I hadn’t expected dampness?) Fortunately, I held my tongue, so to speak, and instead replied with, “That depends, do you want to eat me?”, which made her lose interest.
Angel of the Lord , I understand the pain part, too. I have endometriosis, which can make sex painful sometimes - for me, it’s mostly when I’m not totally into it and not aroused as much as I usually am. I really thought there was just something wrong with me that it hurt, but I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one. Unfortunately, with endo, you can also suffer from pain even just by getting aroused, so I’ve sort of learned to just get past it and enjoy the sex.
And handy , I’m of the opinion that my SO is the perfect size - he’s not too big, but not too small, either. And with my condition, that’s a good thing. He’s never boasted about the size of his dick, but I always tease him that I knew we were meant for each other because his penis is the perfect size. Luckily, the pleasure outweighs the pain for the most part and what I’d really like is for my condition to improve so I can enjoy it fully.
handy, I think that is because the “right size” is different for everyone. I myself, would have to say, the right size for me, would be in the 5-7 range, not that I would be dissapointed with bigger or smaller.
I am rather curious as to what most women consider the “right size” though.
Oh, and as per the OP, I don’t think it should be mentioned. The size of one’s penis is one of those things that is not really feasible to change, and making a point of it would be as innappropriate as pointing out anything else that may embarass the person. Such as saying, “Wow, you have a big ass” or something.
If it is an issue for you, I would avoid mentioning it, and just show some discretion. he probably already knows and saying something won’t make it bigger.
I kind of figure I’m average in size. The Wifestrocity’s hymen was never torn away fully during her first bout with intercourse, and pretty much ever ‘bout’ of sex she endures is highly painful.
Soon after we married, I asked her about having the rest of the hymen removed so that she wasn’t in terrible pain during our intimate moments. She flatly refused, claiming that she wasn’t interested in going through anything painful just so I could have more sex with her. And, she never did.
So, it’s not always the size of the man that makes for pain.
(Yippee, it is as big as I think :D)
