Alright. I’m only 16 years old. 3 years ago I met a guy who I thought was the most perfect person I’d ever met in my life. On January 1st, 1998 we started going out. We were together for two years, he was my best friend in the world, and EVERYONE said we were incredibly perfect together. Even though towards the end I was miserable a lot (I didn’t think I should be so young and already tied down, and we spent too much time together and got on each other’s nerves sometimes), I was still comfortable and still loved him and figured he was too important to me to end things.
Obviously he felt otherwise. In February he broke up with me. I was completely shocked. We did not remain friends, he refuses to have anything to do with me.
Here I am, 7½ months later, and I still have dreams about him every night, and still cry about him almost every day.
What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just get over this? Is this normal? I feel so stupid for still crying over it constantly almost 8 months later. Does anyone have any idea how I can try to get past this?
I’m sorry for coming here out of nowhere and just whining, but none of my friends really understand (it’s always “he’s a jerk- it’s his loss” which I KNOW isn’t true) and nobody I know my age has been through anything similar. If nothing else, can someone just reply to this so I don’t look like a moron?
My daughter had her heart broken within the last year and a half, and it totally devastated her for several months. If there is anything you can do to make yourself feel better for only a little while each day, you are making progress. I am so sorry this happened to you at such a young age, and hope it won’t leave you bitter to the possibility of someday having another loving relationship.
Do you have a pet, or a friend who will listen to you even if s/he has heard it a hundred times before? Do you think going to a counselor would make you feel better?
Good luck to you, AndYrAStar. I’m glad you told us about this.
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You’ll just have to start going out with Carlos… as long as Fairy Princess Kitty is willing to share him
Seriously, though, reading that thread (I don’t know how to make cool links to threads, but it’s entitled “A Little Help?”) might make you feel better, in that (a) many encouraging things were said, all of which could certainly apply to you, (b) it will show you you’re not alone, and (c) you will see how someone else in a similar situation has dealt with it (apparently) quite well
Or perhaps it will just make you insanely jealous of FPK, who was terribly heartbroken and mere seconds later (apparently) has hooked up with a fantastically romantic exotic Latin guy who writes her love poetry. I personally vote that we force her to write “I have no right to complain about anything ever again in my entire life” on the chalkboard 500 times… whaddya think?
I really meant to post this to MPSIMS. Can it be moved?
<<Do you have a pet, or a friend who will listen to you even if s/he has heard it a hundred times before?>>
Not really. They’re pretty much all sick of hearing about him & think I should just get over it already.
<<You’re just feeling really wretched, not in the slash-your-wrists kind of way, right?>>
Yeah, mostly.
<<Very few people at 13 meet the person they’re with forever, hon. >>
I know that now. As stupid as it sounds, I really did believe that we would be together forever. Either way, it’s still hard.
I’ll try to find the thread mentioned but my mouse is broken and it’s a bit hard to get around.
Here is the link to that thread that was mentioned.
And here is a spider
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for a pet for you, blowing kisses, and here are some spider hugs.
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You can e-mail me at l_frenette_vannurden, if you want to talk more, and then I can also tell you a little more about my daughter. She posts here also and I will write and tell her about you.
[ul]“If two people love each other there can be no happy end to it.” [sub]Ernest Hemingway[/sub][/ul]A long time ago, I remember feeling better after reading this. It hurts, but it’s supposed to.
Searching for the above (to make sure that I got it right), I stumbled another Hemingway quote:
[ul]“The world breaks everyone and afterward, many are strong at the broken places…”[/ul]The rest of the quote is here, but it’s depressing, and it’s not particularly relevant to the topic at hand.
As dumb as this may sound, remember the people around you who do love you, especially your family.
I feel for you, AndYr. I think a lot of people out of their teens forget how bad it hurts to lose your first love. That pain can run as deep as losing an adult relationship, in my opinion. I think you’re just still shook up over the whole thing. Two years is a long time to be with someone (especially at a young age). Time really does heal all wounds, even though you don’t think so now. Just keep going out with your friends, and try to date a little. If things don’t get better after a few more months, (like the end of the year) try talking to your school counselor or someone like that.
