Both in real life and online it’s really getting kind of tiresome listening to people bitch about what bastards and bitches their ex’s were and how they never should have gotten involved with that person because the person was not particularly bright, or ambitious, or was too controlling, or too needy, or too unstable blah, blah, blah.
People get into relationships and stay in relationships because they get something out of them, it’s rarely a one way street. Whether it’s sex, companionship or whatever, you weren’t retarded or helpless and you made an active choice to get involved and stay involved. Your ex’s may be the scum of the earth, but they are the scum that* you * chose and made a decision to stay with for however long your relationship lasted, so stop your bitching it takes two to tango.
I don’t really understand your rant. If someone discovers that their mate is the scum of the earth in the middle of their relationship and did the responsible thing by leaving them, why are they not entitled to talk about how bad their ex was/is?
Your rant would make sense if you were complaining about people not taking responsibility for the relationships that are currently in.
astro, I agree to some degree. Yes, they made the choice to enter in that relationship. But it takes time to really get to know a person, and a lot of times the bad stuff takes time to show up. So, the person you dated may be scum. The part that I do agree with is that they should let it go. You’re out of the relationship. Hopefully you learned from it. Take the lesson - and move on!