In this thread,you dumped your purse all over us, then changed your story and got mad and had your thread closed when it wasn’t going the way you wanted. That’s crap, and you’ve been here long enough to know that. I’m a little surprised that Skip closed it as promptly as he did; the thread not going the way you want it to is not usually a good enough reason to pull the plug, in my experience.
If you don’t like what we have to say, don’t come to us and ask for advice. If you only want to hear opinions that agree with your own, maybe you should say that in your OP and save us the trouble of trying to have an honest dialogue with you. Actually, I’m not sure where you could go to have people only tell you what you want to hear. If you went to a counsellor and told them what you told us, they wouldn’t blow a lot of sunshine up your ass, either. If you just want to blow off steam without any feedback, maybe you should use a blog.
Here’s a little more advice you probably won’t like; if your relationship doesn’t stand up to scrutiny by dis-interested strangers (that YOU invited to scrutinized it), it’s your relationship’s fault, not the dis-interested strangers’. Maybe instead of getting mad at us, you can sit down with yourself and ask yourself why our responses are making you so mad - preferably before you pop the question. Sure, some of them went a little too far, but don’t do yourself the disservice of throwing the wheat out with the chaff and ignoring all of them.