Thanks to tdn’s thread in which he linked his OKCupid profile, I have started using OKCupid again. I had really quit bothering because there seemed to be no one near me at all. I have started taking a test or answering a question here and there for fun again. There’s also a journal feature where users can post. I was reading posts there and a man was complaining that women never send messages on personals sites. So that got me to thinking.
I’m a woman, and I used to send a lot of messages on OKCupid, but I gradually stopped. The main reason was that I never got any replies. Ever. I tried to be witty and relevant to the receiver’s profile. I never sent a message to someone whose profile would exclude me as someone in whom he would be interested. And still nothing.
I reply readily to messages other people send me, though. I try to be prompt and if it turns out I’m not interested, I let them know politely.
Do you prefer to initiate contact on these sites or to reply to others?