I have been making good progress. It has been about 2.5 months of non contact. I still think about her though. I have been working to recover and to improve myself in areas I feel contributed to the end of our relationship. These improvements make me want to contact her and try to improve relations…but I am not unaware that this is probably normal. It’s probably best for me to leave her in the past. I guess I am having a weak few days. Thanks for your support.
Life is about moving forwards, not backwards.
You’ll feel like a fool tomorrow.
Even if you fix what you think is wrong with you, it doesn’t mean she cares, or that it fixes what is wrong with her.
You can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear.
Never dwell on ‘what if’, think ahead to ‘next time’.
Well, think of it this way, is it possible or probable that you feel like you are improving because you* haven’t *contacted your ex? Leave her alone or jepardize your progress so far. Rather than approval of your new behavior you may instead receive a new batch of rejection and criticism.
If you are thinking of reconciliation with her you are not improving as much as you think.
Thanks that’s all I needed. I’m not really thinking of reconciliation…it seems to just enter my head from time to time. Usually when I feel lonely. But really I’ve made good progress (My therapist agrees). I’ve lost weight, focused on work, school, and friends, and have generally kept my life moving forward without her. I’m working on being the best single person I can be.
Because every journey starts with one step. 
Cliched as that sounds, the same holds true for the passage of time with regards to things like this. You can’t build up that awesome feeling of “It’s been 6 weeks!” since last contact if you don’t start building on the first day. Eventually, you’ll be saying 3 months, then a year and before you know it, you’ll look up and you won’t remember how long it’s been. Just a long damned healthy time. Good luck!
When you stop thinking of yourself as a “negative number” and start thinking of yourself as a “whole number,” you’ll be a “plus.” 
What if he ends up being irrational and complex, though?
It’s probably the holiday season that’s making you want to do this. Just hang in there until January. You’ll feel better.
Stop yourself from looking back. You’re not going that way! Remember you’re heading forward.
When you catch yourself thinking of the past, replace it with thinking of a rosier future!
One reason to not contact her is because it will not do a bit of good if you do. Nope, not one bit. She doesn’t care what it is in your head that is so important for you to share. She has a new life, and wants to move on. Without you.
Them what knows calls me “Mr. Christmas Joy”.
Killjoy as his post sounds, HH is almost certainly correct. Hang in there, Quasimodal. She’s basically an addiction that you’re trying to overcome.
If you contact her, you’ll grow hair on your palms