I’m one of those women who responded that I’m not getting enough sex. Because I am single and I’m not getting any sex.
And it does not escape the irony that 99% of the approaches I have received in the past two years have been from MARRIED men who aren’t getting any at home and are looking to have an affair. Sheeesh…
when we’re together we have sex almost every day. Compared to every prior relationship in my life, this is very satisfying. I’d say 4 to 6 times a week. on average, except for times we’re not together. We still manage to do it twice some days (and we’re old…)
We’re in the every-other-day mode. Fertility experts say every other day is a good frequency for trying to get pregnant. But sometimes we go three or four days because of work or whatnot.
Even so, in my head, the thought of getting pregnant is super sexy. I get turned on just thinking about getting pregnant… so I’m wanting sex even more.
Husband and I are in the “couple times a month” category. I want more, and he probably does too. But we just had a baby. I’m tired a lot, and he’s tired a lot, and damned if that kid doesn’t wake up at the most inopportune times!
Currently, I’m without a steady sex-partner.
My last long-term relationship was reasonably well matched, with my girlfriend wanting sex 5-8 times a week and I wanting it 1-3 times a day.
I was in my late 30’s and she was 8 years younger.
I’ve always had a crazy libido…
There seems to be more people than I expected doing it once a day or more. Where do they find the time?!
Lucky smucks.
My boyfriend recently moved to a different country for a postdoctoral position so at the moment I am not getting enough sex or cuddling - life is hard sometimes.
This thread is making me think of this classic Flash video - Everybody else has had more sex than me
I have sex about once a month, twice if I’m lucky. My girlfriend rejects my sexual advances almost daily, but I still love her.
This is my answer, too, although occasionally he has to be out of town for a few weeks at a time, which I didn’t really add into the average. We’ll have been married 10 years in May.
A few years ago I needed it at least once a day and my wife, while she always enjoyed it, was happy with about once a week. We had a few heart-to-hearts about it and we found a happy medium at 3-5 times a week, and that’s where we are now. Meantime, when I hit 40 my needs diminished somewhat to the point where 3-5 times is just what I want, and her interest increased to the same level.
I will say, however, that if I didn’t have this pesky day job, we’d probably have it more often. I find I have a libido peak around late morning- like right now, for instance. When I occasionally work from home, my wife makes sure she schedules herself to be home so we can enjoy some time while the kids are at school.
It’s *really *slowed down since we got a dog. He’s rather…intrusive, and my gf strenuously objects to putting him outside whilst we do the horizontal lambada. Ugh.
It helps that I’m a college student who’s only working part time and my current boinking partner doesn’t work at all. So when we have an evening together twice a night is the average and then once in the morning…or more if there’s no class. We don’t get every night together, but it’s frequent enough to average out to more than once a day. If it lasts long enough for the new to wear off or schedules to change, I imagine it’ll become less frequent. I’m also counting any act that causes an orgasm to be “sex”, which might drive my stats up if others are only counting penetration.
This doesn’t strike me as being a healthy situation for either of you.
Sorry, forgot to also click on Female - Satisfied with the amount I’m getting. We’d probably have a lot more but I’m so damn tired by the end of the day that by the time my head hits the pillow, he has about 5 seconds to get his ass to bed if he wants any. We take a shower together a lot of mornings, with predictable (and not in any way water-saving) results.
What would be a healthy situation for us?
Presumably, one where someone isn’t constantly rejecting the other or being rejected by the other, if what you said in your post was literally true.
I put other, since “none and happy about it” really isn’t accurate, nor is “none and it sucks.” The correct answer is “none and it’s ok, that’s just how life is right now.”
Details: My husband died two years ago after a lengthy illness during which sex was really really low on the priority list for both of us. So nothing since about 2005. I value sex as a wonderful part of a committed relationship, but there’s I don’t choose to participate in any other context. Since I’m still too shell shocked for a relationship at this time, sex is on the back burner. Way back. Not even simmering. I’m neither happy nor unhappy about it. Life is wonderful and full of joy. Sex is such a small part, really.
Preferred frequency: 37 MHz.
Does someone besides me have to be there for it to count?
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I mean, besides Claire Adams, of course.