I recall seeing a documentary about 8? years ago about poly relationships. One of the poly threesomes was living in Portland and had moved there because they were more accepted there then wherever it was they came from.
The thing about the people profiled in this particular documentary was that they were all under 30 and were three people made up of two men and one woman.
My questions are these; Why does it appear that most are two or more women sharing a man and not two or more men sharing a woman? Is polyamory becoming more popular/accepted with a younger generation that may or may not be taking the '60’s “free love” attitude? If the reasons are different than those of the '60’s what are the reasons people give for being in polyamorous relationships.
My opinion on polyamory is pretty much “meh.” Whatever gets you through the night. I am, however, curious, as to how the whole thing works because there’s no way in hell I could emotionally survive such an arrangement.
I’ve always had interesting conversations (not about relationships or SCA) with strangers at Powells Books, for what it’s worth. They have a nice reading series and I’ll bet there are Portland book groups that would also be nice. Audubon, hiking, and other outdoor groups are very active as well.
Someone mentioned Powells Books to me too But more of a ‘go there to sell books for money’ sense. Which is good for me since I need some! But I have been considering volunteering at Audubon. I wanted to volunteer at the zoo but I missed their orientation classes!
Sample bias. Last I went through the people I knew personally I knew more women who were actively poly than men who were. (Not all of those women were heterosexual.)
I, for one, am completely not qualified to evaluate what justifications people may or may not have had for behaviour that may or may not be related in the 60s.
I’m polyamorous because that’s what works for me. I find it simpler, more straightforward, easier to manage, and generally to make sense. I am extremely boring as far as preferences go; many poly people have much more complicated lives than I would be willing to tolerate. (I cherish my lack of excitement.) I tend towards the opinion that people should have the sorts of relationships that work for them and their loved ones.
Most of the poly people I know from discussions are in their forties, more or less; many of them are just as eyerolly as I am over claims of “free love attitude”. There are a few who are older (including a few who are old enough to be retired), and some younger.
If someone starts such a thread, I’ll participate; I’m not sure in my current state of life (very busy due to various factors) that I’d be able to do justice to an Ask The thread as OP.
If you want to drop me an email, that’s fine – I should warn, though, that I probably won’t be able to get to it for a few days, as the email listed in my profile is currently annoying to access. I’ll get proper access back soon, though, so will be able to respond then.
Technically it’s not Nawth Shuah anymore 'cause we’re in the middle of moving (see aforementioned very busy), but I haven’t come up with something new yet, so it will probably remain out of date for a while.
But more of a ‘go there to sell books for money’ sense. Which is good for me since I need some! But I have been considering volunteering at Audubon. I wanted to volunteer at the zoo but I missed their orientation classes!