First a question, then the rationalization behind it:
How common is is it for a woman to become so sensitive after an orgasm that she can’t tolerate even the slightest genital contact afterwards?
My girlfriend enjoys very much the oral attention I love to give to her, and usually reaches the Big O without too much trouble. Immediately afterward, she literally pushes me away and says “no more.” At first I figured that if I avoided ground zero, so to speak, I could continue with gentle kisses and tongue-caresses in the general area (I like to savor the results of my gift to her). But any contact, no matter how it is directed, she says is too much.
Of course, I no longer try to continue for the obvious reason that my aim should be to do what feels good to her, and to take her word for what she is feeling.
I’ve read at times about a woman who would try to push a lover away during oral sex, but the lover is insistent and ends up bringing the woman to additional (and even more powerful) orgasms. Of course, I read this in Penthouse, so I don’t know how much stock to put into it.
My girlfriend says she is only capable of one orgasm. Could that be true? I know many women are mutli- or sequentially orgasmic. Based on the collective experience/knowledge of the SDMB, do you think perserverance would have a chance to bring her to higher peaks, or would I only succeed in getting my head smacked?
Appropriate handle for such a topic, eh divemaster?
My experiences is that, yes, the stimulation for most woman (I say most because it was every woman I’ve ever been with, and that size, while not paltry, is not enough of a sample to make a real scientific determination) is more than they can handle.
As for multiple orgasms, I believe you best ask a woman, but studies has shown that not all, but an good portion of women report this phenomenon. Lucky them!
My wife does not exhibit sensitivity to the level you describe, though after multiple orgasms does reach a point where she doesn’t want any more. I sense with her that it is equal parts sensitivity and satiation.
On the other hand, After I have climaxed, I am extremely sensitive on my flanks, and can’t tolerate being touched there, no matter how lightly, for at least 5 minutes.
VB
I could never eat a mouse raw…their little feet are probably real cold going down. :rolleyes:
I’m afraid a good head smack may be what you get. My own wife is a single orgasm kind of gal, and generally lets me know she doesn’t want any more tongue lovin’ by closing her legs (and pushing me away). Yes, women can have multiple orgasm, and certainly my wife falls in this category, but I’ve never met a woman who can have them sequentially. The fastest I think I’ve ever had sex twice was with a break of about two hours.
And I have to say it’s HIGHLY context specific. That is, it was right before, and then right after a fancy Christmas party at a ritzy hotel. Sitting at home watching T.V., I think over the course of my whole marriage, I’ve had sex maybe twice in a whole day on only two occasions and that was a daytime/ evening thing…certainly not sequential sex acts.
You’ve described me to a T. I have never had a problem climaxing, but once I do, hands off. Or, uh, any and all parts off. The sensitivity is so intense that I have (accidentally) hit my lover in an almost reflexive action when the area is brushed.
I don’t mind. I’ve heard of multiple orgasms, but I like how mine are: I climax every time, without fail. The orgasms are usually mind-blowingly intense–meaning my reactions delight my lover to no end. I can reach climax again if a five minute rest (refractory period) is given.
I apologize in advance if this post sounds like bragging. Okay, it is a little, but it also illustrates a point in this discussion.
My last girlfriend (who I miss terribly, even though we had plenty of problems) could orgasm easily and continually. Continuously also, sometimes – she’d come and come without stopping until I did. I could go down on her for half an hour and she’d still want penetration afterwards. Double-digit-orgasm lovemaking sessions were not uncommon. I was able to give her more than she could stand on a few occasions only through perseverance – her clitoris is not as durable as my tongue, after all.
As you can see, there are all sorts of women as far as orgasmic sensitivity and potential are concerned.
You can also see one of the reasons I miss her so much. It’s gonna be a lonely Valentine’s Day …
–Da Cap’n
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With a deck of fifty-one.”
Perhaps you could get her to agree to try it one time only. In the interests of science and all that. And if she ends up smacking your head anyway, well, you’ll get over it.
I am one of those lucky women that has multiple orgasms! Only two men have been able to give me multiples so it’s not an easy thing to achieve.
Also, after we have both orgasmed and are satisfied I know that my genitals are very sensitive. Occasionally my boyfriend will touch me and I’ll have another orgasm. It’s not something I want him to do every time we have sex but occasionally it’s nice. :o
This is making me horny and I still have 4 hours till I get off work!! :mad:
Okay, it did not really think I was so gosh-darn special until I read this. I am multi-orgasmic, everytime, sequentially. Once I get going about once every minute or so is completely normal. Now then, despite this, it doesn’t mean everytime I have sex I want to go for the record, sometimes a certain kind of stimulation can be “too much” for a second, in which case a pause is nice, this is especially when I am orgasming. I do know that friends of mine have said after sex they are to sensitive to be touched. luckily I am not one of them.
I’ve experienced the range of reactions, but my wife’s response seems fairly consistent with the OP’s question, so here’s some feedback.
Once she reaches her peak, she can have three or four, or sometimes five, in quick succession – wave-release-wave-release etc. – before she feels too stimulated and wants me to back off.
At that point, I let go with the cunnilingus, and cuddle gently alongside. Then I carefully fondle her earlobe, or sometimes nibble and suck on it.
This doesn’t give her a full-bore climax, but it extends the “aftereffect” of the ones she’s had before. It makes the ramp-down much longer, slower, and more pleasurable.
Just an idea for you to try. If you can’t prolong her “actual” orgasms indefinitely (women like this are rare), you might be able to use stimulation on a sensitive but not generally sexual body part (feet, anyone?) to extend the afterglow.
Wow- this beats the shit out of another Quaantum Theory Thread. Well, I have fresh images in my mind. In the last 3 days, my lover and I enjoyed each other to no end. She is not multi-orgasmic, but I think- sequential. She will orgasm several times in succession, but then frequently, if I offer my mouth/tongue to her by placing it against her, she will continue to move her body against my mouth. But- at her pressure and rhythms. It seems to be a way to lenthen the overall feeling, but not neccessarily her orgasm.
Penetration right after doesn’t seem to be too much for her, she seems to greatly enjoy it. <sigh>
And, at some point, we got so sore that all we did is cuddle, and kiss. That was deliriously nice too. Always is.
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Thanks for the insights/replies. There’s nothing like personal experiences to help out with a topic such as this. I’ve got a better understanding now, as well as a couple of new approaches to try–all in the name of science, of course.
Here’s my experience. Most of the time, I can orgasm once, and it is INTENSE. After that, let me take a nap. I just can’t take anything but cuddling, and I am exhausted. Every now and then, I’ll have a less intense orgasm, and when that happens I have been able to go twice. So, I either have one big one or two little ones. Given the choice, I’ll take the former.
