My gut feeling from reading your post is that the roomate is telling people that you’re to blame for all this (you “drove her to it” with your “meanness” or “crazy behavior” or whatever). That’s why you are being shunned by her caseworkers and her Mom is acting weird. Just my take on it, gut feeling.
Best of luck to you.
But not surprisingly, some people do this exact thing. It’s called manipulation. Sometimes it’s emotional exploitation. In any case, the housemate needs to get out of this situation asap.
That’s what I was going to suggest. When you go pick her up, plan to go early, and talk with the people at the treatment center. You will not be the first concerned and confused friend or relative to come through their door with a million questions.
Good luck to you both.
Human compassion is not necessarily a “guilt trip”.
To the OP do you consider this person your friend? or just someone you share adwelling with?
I f I were the one in this situation I would trust actual evidence and facts before your “gut feeling”
I am aware that this happens. There is no evidence at present that this is the case.
Actually there is some evidence of that – all the accusatory notes, journal entries, whatever, that the roomate left lying around the apartment at the time of the attempt. It’s certainly not definitive that they were an attempt at manipulation, but it’s not an unreasonable assumption to make.
Well, if the roommate had been a little bit better at killing herself, then she would be living on her own anyway. Getting rid of the roommate would take that little bit of uncertainty out of her life. If the suicidal gal wants to keep being roommates, have her pay all of the rent up front. Depending on the method she used, paying the entire deposit might be a good idea too. I’d be pissed if my cleaning deposit went to clean up blood the roommate left behind.
I can’t believe some of the comments that I’m reading here. None of you know this person, why she attempted suicide, or what is going on to cause her actions.
Clean up the blood? Better at killing herself? Dag Otto, that is not cool. It may seem great to type those things because you’re removed from the situation and couldn’t care less what happens to someone you’ve never met, but you come across as heartless.
Yeah, I’m going to regret jumping in here.
If the OP can’t financially afford to live on her own, then having a dependable roommate makes her life better. Even when the roommate lives, the situation isn’t much better. Her boss is wondering where the hell she is. Think she’ll have a job much longer?
I agree that these comments are a bit over the top. Not to mention that there isn’t any blood when a person OD’s. :rolleyes:
However, it seems clear to me that the suicidal roommate is jerking the OP around emotionally and that the OP needs to get away from this person.