No, had my first at 15 (manual stimulation by a partner) and first solo at 16.
N/a
I will state for the record that I have had an orgasm from a butt massage. Not at all kidding. It only happened the once, and was quite unexpected. I doubt he had any idea it had happened.
Hmm, still sounds like the clit is getting touched, just from all angles. Wikipedia has some NSFW diagrams that show the tip vs. the iceberg.
Nope - no problems here.
OK, 37 respondents, 8 were primarily anorgasmic prior to about age 25. That’s just over 21% rate of primary anorgasmia.
Of those 8, 6 became orgasmic after, for a 75% rate of conversion to orgasmic.
So this not very well designed mini-study of mine shows a slightly higher rate of primary anorgasmia here with SDMB posters willing to reply than the literature cited by me showed.
But it also indicates that 3 out of 4 women with primary anorgasmia around age 25 eventually achieve orgasm.
Pretty good odds, but room for improvement.
On a side note, I’m not a believer in the ‘vaginal’ vs. ‘clitoral’ orgasm. I believe orgasm occurs in the same organ for all women; in the brain. Guys have theirs there too, I believe.
In women however, both the clitoris and it’s intravaginal extension the G spot, are very important for facilitating this brain response.
Or so I believe.
All good theories need more research, however.
Thank you all for participating.
Yes, until my late 20s.
Also yes. I’ve figured it out since 
No problems here. Active in some form or another with a partner since age 16. Actual intercourse not until age 18 but orgasmic even my first time.
Cunnilingus, never able to orgasm until I met my current SO. Too much clitoral stimulation is actually painful for me personally. (Sorry for the TMI, felt it may be relevant to the subsequent discussion.) I actually usually orgasm more easily from intercourse because of the sensitivity.
35 year old woman here.
Despite starting to masturbate as a very young child, I have never had an orgasm. As a teenager, like an earlier poster, I didn’t really believe in them; I truly thought they were a myth! I started having sex aged 19, and since then have had 3 partners, all 3 of whom were inexperienced when we started having sex. I was with my most recent partner for over 10 years, which you would have thought was long enough to get there if I was going to, but to be brutally honest, he was a clumsy, rather inept lover, and learned to keep him away from my clitoris where possible. I sometimes wonder if an expert lover could have helped me find orgasm- but then, after all these years, I 'm pretty expert in my own body and I still have never managed it. The pleasure increases, but then reaches a plateau, then further stimulation becomes uncomfortable.
I am now on an antidepressant called Duloxetine which has killed my libido stone dead. I haven’t masturbated in months. I’ve resigned myself to never experiencing an orgasm, which isn’t as sad as it maybe sounds; you can’t truly miss what you’ve never had!
ETA: for a long time I thought I was the only anorgasmic woman in the world. I am comforted to know that I’m not even the only anorgasmic woman on the SDMB!
For the most part I’m with you Doc, but I have an interesting bit to add. I wonder how many women experience only clitoral (inner and outer) orgasms versus C and vaginal orgasms versus non-coital orgasms and if there is any correllation between the three and the perception / practical utilization of the vast variety of eroginous zones? If you run across such a study please let me know.
I guess the short story is, give me five minutes with the inside of an elbow and / or the base of the neck (or any of about a hundred other nice places) and I can make the little bald guy in the boat green with envy.
How on earth could a survey like that (the originally issued one, not the OP) be accurate, I wonder…seems like it would have to be like a Nielsen family thing - ultimately meaningless?
Anyway, 1): No.
To answer question #1, no, I was not anorgasmic at the age of 25. However, I think if I hadn’t started being sexually active at the age of 14 and had waited until a more, er, “normal” age, I probably would have still been anorgasmic at 25. I base that on the fact that I’d never heard of female orgasms or masturbation until I read about them in an obstetrical textbook when I was 8 months pregnant (at the age of 16).
Once I read those two magic words (female orgasm), I started some serious research (asking my friends), and found out there was a whole world out there. About 5 years later, bingo, a solo orgasm. A few years after that, an orgasm with a boyfriend!
In my own defense, I have to say that we didn’t have sex education in school, or if we did it was the semester I was out on maternity leave.
A previous girlfriend of mine would fit into that category, I guess. She was 19 when we first had sex and had only had one or two previous partners, and said that she thought she’d had orgasms before but realised she hadn’t when she actaully did have one. I remember her saying, “I’d usually come, but I never had an orgasm.” :dubious:
I didn’t really get what she meant, either.
That is a sig line just lookin’ for the right person to happen to.
Didn’t have anorgasmia.
I don’t know about Mom; she got married at 25, was a virgin then and won’t talk about masturbation.
The Grandma from Hell was most definitely fine in the orgasms department, thank you much.
A friend of Mom’s has always been anorgasmic, as is her daughter. I’m not sure whether they know what an orgasm is, though: I’d been masturbating and having orgasms for about 12 years by the time I found out “that release” was an orgasm and therefore what I did to bring it up was masturbation (I don’t “touch myself,” so I’d never made the connection).
GCU: try stopping and keeping pressure there. There. THERE! It’s what works for me, I reach a point where I need static stimulation and further movement actually prevents me coming.
That’s me! funfunFUNREALLYFUN… OWOMGSTOP!
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Gentle pressure or firm? Directly on, off to the side?
Further research necessary. If you mysteriously receive a shipment of chocolates and flowers… 
You are far from alone. I recommend a book titled, The Elusive Orgasm by Vivienne Cass. By far, it has the most information re female physiology/anatomy and the like. Lots and lots of women “plateau”. Just reading her book was eye opening for me–I know I didn’t learn in nursing school even half of the info on the female body that is contained in this book. I do not orgasm by direct pressure on the clitoris–believe me, I always felt like a freak, since every porno, every magazine and common thought all says I must. I found out by reading this book, that lots of women don’t do so–surprise, surprise.
If I’ve learned one thing about sex in 45 years, it’s that there is no “must”–everyone is different and responds uniquely. I say forget about achieving orgasm as if it were some kind of goal and just tune into the sensations you’re feeling. Orgasm may or may not happen, but that doesn’t mean sex etc doesn’t feel good or give you pleasure.
Have got to ask – and feel free to tell me it’s none of my business – but have you tried a vibe (or two, or three)? Detachable shower head? They’re much easier to, uh, tease yourself with, especially indirectly.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I/we have a veritable… array of toys of all kinds, and make great use of them. Plus, I installed our detachable shower head myself.
Tried lots of things and enjoy them extensively–just haven’t found the right trick yet, that’s all.