He needs to pee? He can use the Green Latrine.
If he’s that much of a baby, the next time you need to shower, give him a 5 minute warning.
Not only do I like my privacy, but I don’t want anyone flushing during my shower. Note that my shower/bath is separate from the toilet, and also that there are three people living in my house and three bathrooms. Still, the plumbing is such that a cold flush will bring a spray of ultra-hot water.
I don’t want anyone running the hot water, either. That results in a cold flush in the shower.
I may be in there longer than 15 minutes but the water won’t be running that long.
But back to the OP. You’ve asked. He’s indicated it’s not that important to him. I think that’s the real issue.
I can see that I’m in a minority, but just thought I’d indicate— I agree with the BF.
If there isn’t a lock on the door already, I’d install one.
I do too really. What’s the big deal? It takes what maybe a minute to pee at most?
I guess if your plumbing is so bad that you can’t flush the toilet while someone is in the shower, that might be a very small issue.
I also still wonder if the OP has a shower curtain or what?
On the other hand, it’s a small (if strange) request for the BF to respect.
Right. It’s reasonable to request privacy, but I’d be annoyed if I had to piss in a cup because princess is soaking in the bathtub.
I think if you are both adults it just calls for some form of compromise.
You say you have already done the dishes so surely he can just piss in the sink.
How do you feel about her giving you a 5 minute warning, before her shower?
Honestly, I would probably dismiss the the warning without giving it any thought because I’m not used to manage that part of my life on a schedule.
My thought process would be like this: “whatever, I don’t have to go now and I don’t know if she will take 5 minutes or one hour in there. When the need comes I’ll just excuse myself and be in and out in two minutes. Easy peasy”.
I am really surprised by the number of people in this thread who think the OP’s request for 15 minutes of complete privacy once a week is such a strange and onerous request.
How is he able to see you? However that’s happening, make it be opaque. If it’s a clear shower curtain, get a different one. If it’s clear glass, get opaque window film from the hardware store.
Although I agree with everyone that he should just wait. If he can’t wait 15 minutes, he needs to see a doctor to find out what’s wrong with his bladder.
Happily I get all the privacy I need, but at least for me, it’s not “being seen” that’s the problem. It is wanting to be completely alone for a period of time while you take care of yourself. If someone is the room with you, whether they can see you or not, you are not alone.
Latch the door.
If you won’t use it for fear of ‘a real emergency’, you deserve what you get, in my opinion.
You know he thinks it’s okay, no biggie. You know you’re totally within your rights to have privacy from poopers etc, for 15mins while you bathe.
I’m not sure what real ‘emergency’ you’re imagining, but if he has to use the great outdoors a couple of times, perhaps he’ll be more responsive when you politely ask if he needs to use the facilities before you bathe.
But if you can’t be arsed to latch the door, you have only yourself to blame, in my opinion.
Good point. I think there’s a feeling of vulnerability in that situation. It’s not that you’re really at risk or anything. But some primitive part of your brain realizes the situation itself could put you at risk and you feel uncomfortable.
No lock, I checked, but I think I fear my falling or something, but in any case, as adults, I think this should just be on “Ok, that’s what she wants, that’s not like it’s that hard”
Rhiannon8404 et al, yes, It’s a simple request for privacy for 15 goddamn minutes, thanks for getting it.
BTW, the shower doors are frosted or whatever it’s called, but that’s not the point; as I said, he’s certainly seen my nekkid, I just want that time for me.
Buy a latch. Not a lock. A little hook and eye type thing.
In a ‘real’ emergency it can easily be defeated. If you should fall, almost drownd etc.:dubious:
They cost under $3, and are available at any hardware store.
Yes, ideally he should just respect your wishes. Clearly, that’s not going to happen. You can fight and fuss, or you can be proactive. Buy a latch!
Bad advice. Solve your differences like grown ups.
I’m of two minds. First, he should respect your request even if he doesn’t understand or agree with it. However, I don’t really understand it. It doesn’t sound as if he comes in there, sits on a chair and watches you wash your nethers; he just coming in to take a quick leak. Get over yourself, a little bit.
Of course, I’m the type of person who generally doesn’t need much privacy for anything. If my wife wanted to come in to grab something while I was in there taking a dump, eh, whatever.
That’s not a primitive part. That’s a maladaptive, dysfunctional part. Even primitive humans sought interpersonal affiliation and co-habitation.
It’s dysfunctional to have specific times or activities for which you want privacy?