I can understand that you’re losing your mind and are a bit worried about it, but as has been pointed out to Lobsang (for instance), the forums aren’t a blog, and you really shouldn’t be starting a new thread about yourself and your need for a hug every time you want one.
For general, day to day, occurrences you might try posting in the MMP. They’re a very friendly and caring group and you’re perfectly fine to post in it every day.
For larger events, you might consider just having one thread about yourself and your current state and updating it. You don’t need to start a new thread.
Figure that we have 1000 regular posters. If on any given day a quarter of these started a thread about their day in MPSIMS, the first page of that forum would be replaced five times over in every 24 hour period. That’s rather untenable.
If you break your arm, saying, “Hey I broke my arm!” That’s fine. Once. But I don’t need to be reminded of your state in a new thread every day for two months while it heals. RickQ had two threads to his name, one when he was diagnosed and one for once things started to decline. That seems more than reasonable.
I feel sorry for both RickQ and Quasimodem, but like I said, it’s just not tenable nor all that desired to have everyone whose not enjoying their life at the moment to be creating new threads every few days letting everyone know how they’re feeling at that particular moment. If you need someone to talk with, the MMP allows that. If you want to send a message to a particular person, the PM system allows that as well. If you really really really need a hug, then certainly you should start a new thread because do worry about you. But if you’re really really really needing a hug every other day, a message board isn’t the place for that. You need to figure out a solution with a doctor or psychiatrist or something.
It is true, though. If everyone did it, I’d have to scroll way down the page all the time to read about the topics that really matter to me, like what noises are funny, or what some cat looked at.
People don’t do it because they are aware that they shouldn’t. And possibly more importantly, like I said, if Quasi is aware and yet still doing it, this probably points to a need for more than a message board can offer. If he’s all that depressed, that’s something that should be dealt with. It’s not a sign of weakness to go in to see a psychiatrist if you’re unbearably happy on a daily basis. You should go see one.
If the OP is serious, since no one is angry, wouldn’t it be more helpful if this was in MPSIMS where the person that’s being addressed would more likely see it?
ETA: Just glancing the first page, I only saw one thread started a long while ago, so I’m not sure what this is about.
Roo, I think he was referring to Jimmy’s post, which you responded to seriously. Jimmy was only being sarcastic, and actually seems to agree with you. Hence, whoosh.
I’m glad you’ve got your empathy somewhat engaged here. That’s a good sign. Of course, if you felt the need to start a new thread every time you do that, we’d have to use our scroll wheel once in a while.
The children!
If the purpose of your OP is as you’ve stated, I’d recommend simply mentioning the MMP option either in a PM to QM, or (in a polite, non-thread-shitting fashion) in the relevant thread.
But I’m guessing you had more you wanted to discuss than to bring the MMP to QM’s attention.
As to that, I don’t know what kind of doctor you imagine can solve someone’s need for a [virtual] hug. As for me, I’d probably suggest something like being involved in a community, IRL or online if that’s more comfortable, where people are intelligent and at least occassionally caring.
For someone who’s going through some pretty stressful, mind- and personality-bending stuff, being able to socialize and work through it in a relatively safe and understanding environment is key.
I don’t think I’ve ever read something as callously and wantonly cruel as this thread. The most repulsively worded Pit thread pales in comparison to this one. A new high in lows. How threatened does one have to be to want to shut down someone going through Alzheimer’s? This makes me sick.
Quasimodem–please continue on posting as often as you feel the need. There are people here who not only support and care about you, but are concerned about your progress and state. I know I will continue to read your posts with interest and fondness.
Quasi, I like your threads, I read them and I care about how you are going. (Yes, I’ve never posted in any of your threads, so the fact that you have NO idea who I am isn’t your memory!)
I almost never start threads, so you can have all my spare threads that I have half typed and deleted without posting. That fair?
I agree with Mame that, if you like Bill, you can have any spare threads I would’ve started in MPSIMS. I just can’t believe that someone who is struggling so much would become the target for a “get an LJ” pit thread. Gee, even if he went absolutely nuts and posted 10 times a day, it still wouldn’t be all that much (especially in the great scheme of things) and I feel TPTB would take care of it anyhow.
But since he doesn’t, I’m finally for the first time gonna pull out this old chestnut… If you don’t like it, don’t read it. Do you post so much in that forum that Bill’s occasional thread pushes yours off the front page or something? And I’m sorry, I don’t care what your rationale is for starting this thread. Sometimes you use your better sense to realize when something isn’t the time nor place and ultimately a shitty thing to do regardless.
Bill, keep on doing what you do. Most of us appreciate it and the rest ain’t worth worrying about.
Yeah, I hardly ever post threads in MPSIMS and will happily donate my quota to Quasi as well.
This thread is exceptionally jerkish, bordering on cruel. Quasimodem, if you read it, which I sincerely hope you don’t, just ignore it and keep on doing what you’re doing. We don’t mind, honestly.
I’ve cut my thread-starting quota way way down and Quasi can have mine, too. He can start as many threads as he likes. And FTR, I do wish Lobsang would get a blog and at least put some of his OPs there. There is a substantial difference between Quasi and Lob and I am happy to have Quasi post all he likes.
Quasi, another vote saying we like you just fine. Don’t listen to this thread.
Isn’t that the kind of stuff that MPSIMS is for, though? 