I’m glad **Quasi **doesn’t come to the Pit anymore and hopefully won’t read this thread.
If you do read it Quasi, you can have my share of thread starts as well, since I rarely make one.
The one thing in the OP that I do agree with is that the MMP would be a great source of support for you. Post when you need to darlin’.
As above. I rarely answer Quasi’s posts, as I don’t know if he knows who I am (not because of his illness but because of my insignificance), but I read them with much care. His threads are neither trivial nor excessive, and if he starts one a week or more they are welcome. He has asked to be told if he does or says something indicative of his condition, and concerned Dopers have agreed to tell him.
This is not it.
SR, I like you, so please don’t take this the wrong way, but… fuck you.
In no way am I disparaging him. I don’t even particularly mind that he is starting threads and if everyone else is happy with that then I guess so be it.
But I would still challenge anyone to find me a reason why if someone is looking for something, he shouldn’t go to where that is the norm to do it? If I’ve got a guy raiding dumpsters instead of just walking up to the picnic table and sitting down and joining along, and everyone’s perfectly happy to accept him at the picnic table, how is it bad to inform him that what he’s doing is neither necessary nor really the best option.
At no point have I said that he shouldn’t be being perfectly sociable and caring and loving, nor that people shouldn’t be doing exactly that in return. I’ve said nothing more than that there’s already ways set up to do what he’s doing, but probably better.
Because it’s no skin of your ass if he doesn’t “go to where that is the norm” and it makes you seem like a bit of a dick to try to herd him there, as if he’s done something so wrong it deserves correction.
But where else would you have him go? He’s said repeatedly that we’re all he has and that this is home to him. If indeed he were to take his thoughts to LJ (which is similar to what he’s already done in his blog), then everyone he’s meant to see his stuff might not follow him there.
If he only posts in the MMP, his thoughts might get lost amongst the many others and there’s several posters who don’t read that at all (like myself) and certainly wouldn’t know to do so just to see what he’s said. Plus, if he feels that there’s enough import about what he’s sharing with us, then that does deserve it’s own thread and importance.
I can’t imagine a better solution than the one he’s already using.
Is this anything like buying and selling carbon credits? Whoot!
I don’t read MPSIMS at all, but since I rarely start threads, he can have my spare ones too.
Well said. We’re a community, people, and sometimes one of us needs more support and attention than others of us do at that time. And that’s not only OK, it’s the way it should be.
I could perhaps understand pointing out in one of his threads that he might also find some of the answers and support you think he may be seeking in a MMP but I can’t imagine suggesting he quit doing some of the things, anything really, that he’s found cathartic.
I like his threads. It’s with a great deal of pain that I stay informed with what he’s going though but he’s a friend in need and I don’t want what he has to say to become difficult to hear.
Jesus Christ. No, you clearly don’t understand jack shit. How callous. You should be ashamed, and I mean that sincerely.
I don’t really think that Quasimodem starts all that many threads in MPSIMS. Currently he has two threads that he started on the front page. I’ve never started any threads in MPSIMS so he can have my quota as well.
I thought that MPSIMS was for chatter and personal type items, as well. If you don’t like that kind of thing, avoid MPSIMS. Hell, if you don’t want to read his threads, don’t.
Sage Rat, you’re way off here. I almost never post a thread, so he can have my “quota”.
Quasi, in spite of the difficulties he feels free to share with us, is smarter, funnier, more literate, more compassionate, more interesting than many of the posters at this board.
BTW, he does have a blog, but he likes to exchange with his friends here also. I don’t see anyone else who has a problem with that.
Another vote for “Post what you please, Quasi!” You’ve never annoyed me yet.
Sage Rat: you are way, way out of line here. I very rarely get worked up or angry, but your OP is despicable. As others have said, you should be deeply ashamed. In all of the pittings I have come across, this is perhaps the most insensitive, cruel and unnecessary.
I really hope **Quasi **doesn’t come across this; but if you do, Quasi, I look forward to any and every post you have made and will make. Please don’t stop because of anything this…I can’t think of an adequate word to describe him, has said. This board has many functions, and giving support to people in need is one thing we should never stop doing. You can get all the psychiatric help you want, but an online group hug is irreplaceable.
A Rat you may be, a Sage you’re not.
Quasimodem is definitely no more annoying or inane than anyone else who posts in MPSIMS, and I don’t see him posting any more regularly than anyone else. Yeah sometimes he posts weird shit but there are a handful of other posters who do so as well.
And, if Quasi does post weird shit it’s not all “some girl is ignoring me” or “I hate myself” LJ-type stuff. It’s usually sincere gratitude for all of us here, and how could you not get behind that?
I love him and am worried when he DOESN’T post. So please don’t ever tell him to stop.
Good grief. You could pick and choose among dozens of denizens of this board with 20,000+ posts who seldom say anything nice to anyone, who spend their days posting non-sequitors and non-answers in GQ, and take great delight in bullying the less-informed.
Instead, you choose to pick on a nice guy.
Are you having a bad day, Sage Rat?
Of course not. But again, if I see someone raiding dumpsters when he could sit down at a picnic table and join along, how is it being cruel, unkind, mean, jerkish, or rude to try and convince the guy that he’s got other options that are better in every single way? Actually read what I’ve written. I’ve not disparaged anyone, I haven’t said anyone should stop what they’re doing. I’ve pointed out how everyone can accomplish the same exact thing in a way that doesn’t break the board rules, and will probably better because the MMP is already set up for real socializing.
When you start a new thread, you’re not just one of the crowd, you’re the birthday boy. There isn’t the same amount of free interaction and general camaraderie as you can get when you’re in a more normal social exchange. You’re always going to be slightly separate from everyone. But if you don’t stand back, but instead go and actually jump in and join the circle, you’re going to get a lot more out of it. You stop being the sad clown in the corner and become an honest friend.
So again, if you can think of any reason at all why this is a bad thing, then go ahead. But like I said, I’m not trying to stop socializing and friendliness. I’m saying how to do exactly that, better.
Mod note: This isn’t a warning, just a reminder that, as part of our campaign to fill the world with peace and love, “fuck you” is one of the handful of expressions that shouldn’t be directed at other posters in the Pit. On a related issue, someone has questioned whether this thread is a good idea and suggested we close it. While we agree the OP raises a ticklish subject, so far things seem to be well in hand. Post away.
So noted. Sorry.