Wow, really? I’ve got this small problem of India & Pakistan I’d like you to work on. (I’m more personally invested there than the ME).
Quasi, SR has this much of a point - the MMP might be a good place for you to join in addition to your threads…they are a good, supportive bunch of people and would love to have you join them. (Well I guess technically I’m a Mumper, I just haven’t posted in a while! )
But please know I don’t feel you should have to cut down your threads at all. MPSIMS is supposed to be exactly for your threads, and like someone else mentioned, it’s not angsty whiny stuff about a girl, it’s comfort, both giving and receiving.
What if he wants to raid dumpsters because that’s what he prefers? What if he would be embarrassed to have you try to tell him he can’t or shouldn’t? What the hell difference does it make to you? And it’s not as if starting your own threads is distasteful or demeaning (akin to dumpster diving) while participating in an existing thread is necessarily preferable (akin to a picnic), so your analogy is a stupid one anyway.
You think he’s “breaking the board rules”? Report his post! As I was recently reminded, that’s what we’re supposed to do anyway. What the fuck do you care if he’s the birthday boy? What the fuck do you care if he decides to be the “sad clown in the corner”? Nobody asked you to make his board experience “better” for him, and I’m sure when he needs the assistance he’ll let you know. In the meantime, a thread that essentially says, “I know you’re losing your mind but try to post correctly, mkay?” is surpassingly dickish, and now trying to spin it as some attempt to help him is contemptible.
You’re in a hole. Do yourself a favor and stop digging.
And I can actually see where an MMP would be very difficult to follow in Quasi’s condition. Hell, I have no neurological problems at all and I find MMPs hard to keep up with! (Delightful as they are otherwise)
Quasimodem is more emotionally invested in this board than most posters. I don’t read all his threads but I recognize how much he needs this place and the support of everyone here. I’d give him his own forum if I could. I can scroll past the threads I don’t want to read, no trouble at all, just as you can Sage Rat. If everyone were doing it, yes, I might consider it an issue; they aren’t, so I don’t.
One day, Sage Rat, you - or I - might need the sort of compassion that these caring people are showing. It might be crucial to your ability to get from one day to the next. And someone might, for some unfathomable reason, attempt to criticise you for reaching out for that support, or the way you are attempting to do it. Would you say that that person was being positive, helpful or supportive?
I think the Rat is uncomfortable with, or fearful, of what QM is going through. Seeing his threads every so often brings up those fears, so instead of trying to change himself the Rat wants someone else to do it for him, by hiding/laying low.
I recall, from years ago, a Dear Abby letter whose author complained about seeing a handicapped woman(cerebral palsy it sounded like) and her husband, eating in the same restaurant the author was at. She stated she didn’t like how the other woman had to be assisted by her husband, and that sometimes food missed her mouth and went onto the napkin. The letter writer wondered why “people like that” didn’t just stay home, where they wouldn’t bother “normal people” Abby ripped her a new one, in the only really angry response I ever saw her give.
Count me in with the rest who feel **QM **should post as needed. He shouldn’t have to hide what’s going on, and most of us will be happy to give him a sympathetic ear.
Why would you need to do anything?
post what you want and where.
I wouldn’t let one poster dictate what happens
Good luck man You sound like a nice guy
All right. I am going to say something that makes me feel like an asshole.
I sort of had this reaction like Sage’s during the recent Ed-Gate thing this past month, so I haven’t been reading or posting a whole lot. I also haven’t done my good doper duty by keeping up with what’s going on with some people.
Quasi’s name got stuck in my head as the perpetually annoying character who was in every thread and every messed up discussion about splitting boards and posting elsewhere, and he was the one guy who just kept yelling “Stop fighting, let’s talk, don’t go.” Although I never posted about it I kept on wondering why the heck is this guy constantly asking us all to settle down.
I didn’t really get it at the time, I didn’t really understand his motivation… it just bugged me.
Now I saw this thread, and I’ve read all the replies full of support, aaaaand I looked a little closer into Quasi’s recent story. So of course I feel like a big dick.
Bill, post anywhere you’d like to. Tell us what’s up and I’ll try to check your blog every now and then. I can vouch for the MMP as a bunch of really cool kids, and I like posting there every now and then to say hi and catch up.
Please accept my apology for the words I never said.
Quasi, go back and read the REST of the thread before you come to any conclusions. I realize you’re worried about your state of mind, and worried that you’re being annoying without realizing it, but you’re NOT. You’re fine, and everyone here wishes you all the best. If I remember right, you’ve got a couple of people who volunteered to act as your reality check and let you know if/when you’re out of line. Trust those people.
In the recent discussions about what should and should not be allowed in the pit I took the position that I think one of the great things about the SDMB is the breadth of the human experience which is exhibited here. I saw the additional restrictions on how people could interact with each other as narrowing this breadth, and therefore stripping the SDMB of some of its realism.
I would be remiss if I did not speak up for this viewpoint again here. What Quasimodem is going through, with much more grace and humility than many in his situation, is part of the human experience. It’s not a comfortable part, for either him or us, but it is part nonetheless. If we claim this is a community, then we should treat it as such. We have more than enough collective resources and time to ensure Quasimodem has the support he needs, and many of us are willing to give him our ear whenever and wherever he chooses to post. Sequestering him or narrowing his support group down to the MMP crowd, as nice as they are, is not necessary. In fact, as my viewpoint is one which values the expanse of exposure to the human condition, I think it would be a poor choice to limit him in such a manner. Both for him, and for us.
Bill, here’s my vote for keeping the communication flowing in any manner you see fit. Take care of yourself.
I know I must have done something wrong, to wind up here, but I didn’t know what it was?
These days, if I don’t automatically know, I don’t know what day it is, and if I didn’t have “Bill-Pay” with my bank, I’d probably be on the street right now - and NOT on the pooter writing this.
You know what’s missing though? (haven’t y’all figured it out yet. or what?)
There’s no ANGER!
Check me out and take a look - I just don’t have the energy any more.
I HAVE to FORCE myself to get on the bike, whereas it used to be a PLEASURE!
I’m TRYING kids! I REALLY AM! But someimes it’s only a few seconds from deciding to do something before forgetting it.
This took me 15 minutes to write.
I’m wore out, kiddos, but know this one thing, and know it for sure: I love y’all, and I am so grateful daß es Euch gibt!
Just kidding. Monday Morning Posters. The current thread is usually near the top of MPSIMS.
You sound like a nice guy