Beaucarnea–thanks for the explanation. That goes a long way in explaining the “delayed mess response”. And, yes, we’re taking plenty of precautions.
Actually, let me do a little editorializing here. I & my partner were both quite old virgins, past the age where it’d be considered strange. (That thread a few months ago on when-virginity-becomes-weird was sooooooo depressing!) We had opportunities, but we never followed through on them. Actually, to the point where I thought I was asexual for some years… I never really was into my other boyfriends. I’d never orgasmed either, not due to the lack of trying.
It blows my mind that I am a sexual creature, with a gift to easily orgasm during vaginal intercourse (not all that common as I understand). And I’m sure it blows his mind, too–he is not so different than me.
I am by no means advocating the path I took as the best one–merely a viable one out of many. Listen to yourself. Do not give in into society’s, pop culture’s, or your SO’s pressures. (If you’re not into your SO, dumping your SO is probably a good idea, actually, but you’ll probably realize that only in retrospect.)
We are of at an age where we accept that we’re never returning to our youthful bodies. We accept imperfections in ourselves and each other. We are wise enough to be well protected, but also at the same time old enough such that having a baby out of wedlock won’t be the worst thing in the world. We love each other more than life itself… we may not be together forever, but at the moment, we -are- right for each other. These all factors contributed to an incredible, enjoyable, relaxed, and mindblowing “first time”.
So. Virgin dopers, especially those that consider themselves “frigid”, don’t get pressured into something you don’t really want to do, but also don’t despair and especially don’t give up on looking.
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Thank you so very much for helping out an undercover chicken and embarassed Doperette, Doper sisters!
