I have never in my life checked out a guy’s package*, nor have I ever known another woman who scopes out that area. Face, abs, biceps, butts, shoulders, sure. Package? Never.
*Exception: Mario Lopez hosting some stupid reality show, accompanying debate over the likelihood said “package” included at least one pair of rolled-up tubesocks. Final consensus: 98.67945% probability.
As far as purses, my work clothes don’t have pockets, as others have said, and I carry an amount of stuff to fit the size of my purse and how far I’ll be walking that day.
If I’ll be walking a lot I carry a swing bag with just the essentials: wallet, phone, lipstick, and keys. For everyday and for work I carry a bigger purse that has the above plus medication, checkbook, a fold up reusable shopping bag, headphones, muliti tool, contact lens solution, nail file, spare keys to the other car, offsite backup tape, pen, small bottle of hand sanitizer, flash drive, small mirror, and a compact pair of reading glasses in case my partner forgets his. I guess I like to be prepared. A professor once exclaimed that if she was ever trapped on a desert island and could only have one thing she’d want my purse. Back then I often had things like screwdrivers and flashlights in there as well.
May I ask a question of women even though I am one? I’ve never understood what many women have against body hair on men. My partner is a good looking but hirsute sort of guy and he’s a bit insecure about it. He’s very clean, but he’s said that when he was younger he’d gotten as far as getting a woman into bed, and when they realized he was hairy they stopped the proceedings and left! I’ve heard women talking about how gross hairy men are as well, but when queried they just say, “It just is!”
I don’t look for bulges on purpose, but if my eye happens to see a crotch (any guy, not just an attractive one) and there’s something unusual about it I’ll definitely notice.
My deaf daughter (20 yo) thinks farts are hilarious.
I have nothing against body hair on men. I mean, a full-on pelt is a little off-putting, especially when it’s on an unexpected place like the back, but I think that has more to do with distribution than anything else. In other words, as long as the hair isn’t like a heart-shaped rug on the front of the chest so dense you can’t see skin underneath, I’ve got no problems even with fairly heavy body hair, back or front. My husband is pleasantly hairy - chest, back and shoulders.
As far as purses, when I go to work, I usually carry a briefcase with a book, a purse-sized file (for receipts, the odd coupon I actually remember to use before expiration and pay stubs, which I always forget to file at home), a nail file, a small makeup bag with lipsticks and lotion, my day planner, any files I need for review, my wallet, my cell phone and a charger. If I’m out and not working, I usually just toss my wallet into my son’s backpack and stick my cell phone in my back pocket. The only time I use a traditional purse is if I’m on a business trip. Then I’ll usually just tuck an empty one into my luggage so I can bring it along on client meals and outings where a briefcase is far too formal and carrying things in my hands is too sloppy and inconvenient (it’s hard to shake hands with someone when you’re trying to juggle a wallet and cell phone in your hands and have no pockets to put them in).
FWIW, and though it shames me to fit the French stereotype for once, I never understood the male obsession with shaved pits, shaved legs, shaved pussies either (although shaved heads ? Hot.). Hairy nipples and moustaches are a bit too much, admittedly, but I really don’t get why “normal” hair is supposed to be verboten.
ETA : oh, and it’s not just an American thing, either - all of the French girls I’m friends or went out with are obsessed about their legs and pits being absolutely spotless. I don’t get it. Whatever floats their smooth boat, I guess.
I did always find it a little off-putting that I’m not supposed to mind my (male) partner’s back pelt but society shudders in revulsion should I decide against shaving my pits.
FWIW I don’t mind my guy’s natural body hair, and I’m grateful that he doesn’t apparently pay much of any attention whatsoever to mine… though for my own tastes, I do remove some of it.
In fact…
I can take that whole “haircut” thing to a whole other level. One time I thought it might be sexy to have a full Brazilian waxing done for his birthday. I’ll leave you to guess whether or not he noticed* :smack:
Purely as a social experiment, shortly thereafter I decided to stop shaving my pits, to see how long it would take him to notice that. Eighteen months later with nary a word said about it, I finally got around to asking him about it. I wasn’t terribly shocked to find out he hadn’t noticed that, either. Apparently we’re free to be fuzzy together.
*hint: no.
How could he not?!? Wow.
Someone once did that for me, and my reaction was – well, I won’t tell you, let’s just say I reacted like a motherfuck.
Hope it wasn’t your mother who did it, then.
Seriously, I’d notice that even if you were fully dressed. You just know.
Were you yelling Woo-hoo!?
Well, she is a mother.
But really, you can just tell? I think I need to develop my baldar. It would be nice to just walk into a room and know who I should be talking to.
Maybe a little. I think I was mostly just drooling and and saying “oh baby.”
Well, I dunno about any of you other ladies, but I’m a little put off that any man who might want to sleep with me might actually be turned off by seeing evidence of fully developed secondary sex characteristics. You want me to look like I’m 10? Why? Are you a pedophile? Then why is pubic hair out of fashion? Don’t you want physical evidence that you aren’t molesting a child?
I’ll mow the lawn and trim the edges, but I ain’t going bald down south, uh-uh. I prefer that anyone who is turned on by me is turned on because I look like an adult, not because I look like a prepubescent child when nekkid. :: shudder ::
So there’s one for the men: Do I have to shave it? Can’t you just be turned on by a neat little landing strip or something?
Yes, that’s fine. Honestly, it doesn’t make any difference as long as you keep it off the parts that are good eatin’.
Do guys ever jerk off in the bathroom at work?
I personally don’t mind if women don’t shave anything. (I’ve dated 2 such women.) If shaving your legs/pits is a hassle for you, just don’t do it. Some men care (my brother, for example), but they shouldn’t, and it’s your body.
Well, we’d have to have pictures to really judge. In the interest of accurate results and science, you understand 
Great question! I mean, I’m sure some do, but do a lot of men do it? Is it “normal” or “weird” to do it?
Most adult women look nothing like 10 year-olds even completely shaved. Pubic hair is not the only secondary sexual characteristic. Personally, I think it the area looks better bare and it is much more comfortable to do the things I like to do down there. That said, If you are going to shave, only shave the lightly haired areas. Thick stubble can be quite painful at times.
My question: Do women consider the time they spend on personal care part of the house work? I noticed with my wife that she complained that she does more around the house, which surprised me because I do most the cooking and least half of the cleaning and we do our own laundry. When I talked to her about it she was basically upset because I had more free time around the house. The big difference is she spends at least an hour more a day on personal care.
Jonathan
Please don’t for me (though I am married - so the specific response is irrelevant). The completely shaved look bugs me, and is part of why I have little interest in porn.
Now, doing anything that is for MY pleasure is a HUGE turnon. So if you walked up to me and whispered in my ear that you had decided to do some trimming just for me … the Dom would be open, the house cleaned, the kids sent off somehow and anything else to make you happy until I could do a personal inspection. Doing something JUST for us (or me or whatever the reference should be) is the biggest turn-on there is.