Questions you've secretly always wanted to ask the other sex

[prettydorky]

@StarvingButStrong

Really, if you were a woman, which orifice would YOU prefer to use?

As Really Not All That Bright pointed out, woman I are…and I can understand where you were coming from in your eloquent post. But I never saw it as a ‘prefer’, it’s apples to oranges, in my opinion.

[kapri]

@prettydorky

I’m assuming this is for the guys?

Similarly, for many of the ladies, what do you have against it?

For a long time I wouldn’t do it because it hurt. Then I tried it and it worked, so I’ll do it once in a while, but to be honest, it does little or nothing for me.

(hoping I’m still anonymous here, and blushing …)

[kapri]

@StarvingButStrong

Well, see, we have this one orifice that’s self-lubricating, meant to stretch to the appropriate size, self-cleaning, surrounded with lots of nerves receptors, close enough to the clitoris that action in the one translates to stimulus of the other.

We also have a second orifice that isn’t self-lubricating, rarely has to stretch to that same diameter, is not only not self-cleaning but actually self-soiling, has nerves, obviously, but not to the same extent, and is so far from the clitoris that it doesn’t get the same stimulus.

Not to mention unpleasant smells, the need for both partners to carefully clean up afterwards, the posibility of ending up with smears of unpleasant stuff on sheets or whatever… (And really, which of the partners is more likely to have to change the bedding and wash it and all?)

Really, if you were a woman, which orifice would YOU prefer to use?

Your answer is better than mine. Agree 100%.

[kapri]

@Paul_in_Qatar

Well, I hate to show my ignorance of things mammalian, but here goes. What determines the size and shape of the areolae? Some are well-defined, others larger and lacking a clear line of demarcation.

Heredity? Having been a mother? Normal variation? I not men’s areolae seem to be about the same, not that I have done a lot of staring you understand.

I’m pretty sure it’s heredity, although I’ve seen my mom’s (when I was young, I but stil remember), and hers is different from mine. She a brunette, though, with brown eyes, and I’m a blonde with green eyes and very fair, which makes me think that it’s also based on coloring/melamine. Or something.

[MeanJoe]

@niblet_head

Do guys ever jerk off in the bathroom at work?

Yes, I’ve done it before. Not regularly, maybe 2-3 times total in my lifetime (so far!).

[Really_Not_All_That_Bright]

forwards thread to kapri’s co-workers

[Stauderhorse]

@John_DiFool

Since sex seems to be a big interest in this thread, I’ll chime in:

1. Did your first time hurt, ladies? I’ve read conflicting accounts on this-of course it depends on what form your hymen took before the fact, which leads me to…

2. Is your cherry still intact, partially or wholly? What I mean is, depending on your anatomy vs. that of your regular partner(s), I’ve heard it said that the hymen will often stretch, but not always break, unless something really (umm) big is involved.

1. Hell yes. There was a strong, sharp pain during the act itself, and afterwards (for the rest of the day) a throbbing, kind of raw ache.

2. Nope. There was some bleeding afterwards, and as far as I can tell, my cherry has gone to pieces. (heh)

[Dogzilla]

@Heart_of_Dorkness

More generally speaking, though, it’s not that I’m annoyed by being helped, unless it’s the unhelpful kind of “help” as in the above example. Rather, I’m annoyed by the attitude a few guys still have that it’s okay for me to accept a man’s help, but it somehow demeans him to accept mine.

I just experienced a situation similar to this. I was sitting on the ground, talking to a couple guys who were sitting in chairs (this was at a backyard party). The guys stood to go inside. One of them said that, if I needed help, he’d be happy to give me a hand getting up. I smiled politely, thanked him, and got up on my own power.

I am not insulted to be asked if I want some help. I get pissed off when the guy is insulted by me politely telling him no thanks. This guy looked a little dejected, like I’d personally affronted his manhood or something. I quickly mumbled an apology, “Sorry, man, I didn’t mean to emasculate you right there.”

And the incident would have been over except the other guy snickered when I said that, which really did emasculate Mr. Chivalrous. I figured the best thing I could do there was say nothing and not damage the situation any further.

You want to treat me like I’m helpless, fine. Just don’t be insulted when I don’t coddle your delicate Man Ego® and just go and do without your help. It’s one thing to be polite and offer people help. It’s another to be insulted when your help isn’t needed and isn’t taken. I consider it a much greater sign of respect when a man treats me as though he believes in me enough that I can open my own doors, or my own jars, or I can carry my own heavy load of groceries into the house. If I need your help, I’ll ask for it. And like Heart of Dorkness said, what’s wrong with reciprocation? I’ll help your ass up from the ground too, but that doesn’t make me Lorena Bobbit.

[anya_marie]

@johnpost

inot only does the asshole have nerve endings but it pulls on many of the same muscles that are pulled on during vaginal intercourse which do stimulate the clit.

anal intercourse from the rear into a female can hit the G spot (or something similar) that can’t be touched by frontal or rear entry vaginal intercourse (maybe a stubby guy might from the rear, i have no data on that).

I have tried, and it’s easier by far to have an orgasm from intercourse than an orgasm from anal sex. I just don’t feel like a participant so much as i feel like an object, and i don’t like that either. Apples and oranges.

[Find_Friends]

WOMEN:

What does arousal feel like for you? What was it like the first time you experienced it, and does it feel different now?

One young woman on a talk show said that the first time she felt it, at a dance, she had no idea what it was. She repeated made a trip, but had nothing to pass. Finally, she figured it out. Can you relate to that? Did you ever feel mostly a fullness in the urogenital area?

From what I have both read about, and have had described to me by a woman, can a feeling of arousal from deliberate, erotic touch spread to other areas on you? For example, your neck and ears are being nibbled, you are really into it, and then it feels like your breasts and urogenital area are feeling it?

[Fuzzy_Dunlop]

@Dogzilla

Well, I dunno about any of you other ladies, but I’m a little put off that any man who might want to sleep with me might actually be turned off by seeing evidence of fully developed secondary sex characteristics. You want me to look like I’m 10? Why? Are you a pedophile? Then why is pubic hair out of fashion? Don’t you want physical evidence that you aren’t molesting a child?

I’ll mow the lawn and trim the edges, but I ain’t going bald down south, uh-uh. I prefer that anyone who is turned on by me is turned on because I look like an adult, not because I look like a prepubescent child when nekkid. :: shudder ::

So there’s one for the men: Do I have to shave it? Can’t you just be turned on by a neat little landing strip or something?

I’m personally completely fine with the entire spectrum of pubic hair, but I have to say this attitude is very creepy to me. It’s your body and you should do what you are comfortable with but why do you have to impugn the motivations of the men who like it bare? Even more common, in my experience, are men who are opposed to hairless women because they themselves are afraid it will remind them of a prepubescent woman, or something along those lines. How insecure can you be that the only thing between you an pedophilia is pubic hair?

Even worse, just because it effects me personally as someone attracted to thin women, are people who insist the slender women I’m attracted to are “like 12 year old boys”. Admittedly there are some very slight women with youthful faces who would be creepy to fuck, but the overwhelming majority of slender women look nothing like children, let alone boys. I’ve always assumed that for the most part it’s just a hyperbolic way of being mean to certain women but I worry there are really guys who associate slim women with little boys :rolleyes:

[Dogzilla]

@Fuzzy_Dunlop

How insecure can you be that the only thing between you an pedophilia is pubic hair?

I can be pretty dang insecure.

That and I’m lazy about shaving.

[kapri]

@Really_Not_All_That_Bright

forwards thread to kapri’s co-workers

puts a curse on Really Not All That Bright

[HeyHomie]

@Fuzzy_Dunlop

Even worse, just because it effects me personally as someone attracted to thin women, are people who insist the slender women I’m attracted to are “like 12 year old boys”. Admittedly there are some very slight women with youthful faces who would be creepy to fuck, but the overwhelming majority of slender women look nothing like children, let alone boys. I’ve always assumed that for the most part it’s just a hyperbolic way of being mean to certain women but I worry there are really guys who associate slim women with little boys :rolleyes:

.

Back in The Day I was fooling around with a very flat-chested woman (as in, she didn’t even wear a bra, just a tank-top under her shirts). The first time she took off her shirt I honest-to-God thought she resembled a teenage boy in the chest department. It was a turnoff for the briefest of moments, but then she reached down my pants and… :o

[Kobal2]

@wunderkammer

Guys: what is it like to have an erection? Kinesthetically, I mean.

I assume it feels much the same as an aroused clitoris : not much, just a general throbbing sensation that still somehow broadcasts the message that it *needs to be adressed * :p. Without pants on however, it pulls on the belly and crotch muscles.

As a person who has conscious control of all of my moving parts, I can’t really imagine what it feels like to have movement going on without motor control.

There isn’t, really. It doesn’t move with a mind of its own, it’s just that the only part of it that’s actually controled by muscle is the base, the penis itself is just a rigid, blunt instrument. What involuntary movement that might happen is just a function of gravity and the physics of pendulums.

Do you feel it moving in the same way you’d feel your hand or foot moving, or is it more of a nonspecific swelling/arousal sensation?

You feel it moving, but indirectly - it’s all in the muscles propping it up in the groin and the taint (the part of you that “ain’t arse, ain’t equipment”).

Do you know where it is at all times (erect or not)?

Yes. It’s always between the legs.
Less snarky answer : again, yup, but indirectly. When it’s against a leg, or a testicle, the thing it’s brushing against feels it. When it’s erect and pushing against your pants, you feel the resistance, and so on.

Can you tell where it’s pointed without looking at it?

There’s really not that many options. It’s either curled up, or straight up.

Arousal, I understand. Part of you moving as if with a mind of its own is just weird.

Again, it doesn’t move with a mind of its own, so no weirdness here. However, it does *grow *with a mind of its own. All sorts of non sexual things can set off a boner (warmth, friction, smells…), with the awkward results one can expect. I once pitched a tent when a dog sat on my lap so… yeah. In fact, even if a boner happens in a sexual setting, doesn’t necessarily mean the guy’s into you. It’s purely mechanical, we can’t shut it off. And then we age, and we can’t set it on :p.

[Hazle_Weatherfield]

@Malacandra

Why do gals ditto, by a factor of ten or more; a number of Dope threads on women who hover in restrooms are my cite.

I’m referring specifically to our bathroom at home, though; not the public ones…entirely different stories!

[Really_Not_All_That_Bright]

@HeyHomie

…but then she reached down my pants and… :o

…you got embarrassed?

[TruCelt]

@elfkin477

I really hope you misread that as his sister is 16, 'cause I’m fairly sure I know what you’re implying and 16 years younger than him is 11.

Yes, I did misread it. I thought she was 16 years old.

[kombatminipig]

@Electric_Warrior

Guys: what turns you off? Almost all of the men who have shown interest in me have been very socially awkward and the ‘like you for your personality’ type. Women have shown a great deal of interest in me, on the other hand, and usually the ‘damn, you’re hot’ kind. So what is it that makes me hot to girls and invisible to guys?

Poor personal hygiene, lack of self reliance, poor physique, social complexes (and there are quite a few).

Probably the same things that turn you off =)

[AHunter3]

@kidneyfailure

Not exactly conforming to the topic here, but I have a question I’d like answered from some other guys:

Do you always try to catch a glimpse down the shirt of any woman that leans over near you?

Based on everything I’ve read on this board (and elsewhere), I’m about at the 3rd percentile as far as being attracted to women’s breasts.

As part of the overall visual experience, a slight swelling and curve there can be quite poignantly sexy, and I would have to say that as appurtenances they are nearly always cuter than women’s elbows and generally more so than shoulders (although the sort of pentagonal shape of neck to shoulders and then narrowing down to waist and then across at shirt/belt really IS rather delicious at times), I’m just not as FOCUSED on breasts as the Center of the FemaleDelicious Universe as most guys. If there are other more enticing part of the visual display available, I may not even notice whether she HAS breasts.

Example: Safe for work image. She, on the left, from about belt line to around mid-thigh. Given sufficient tightness of pantswear, that’s where I’m glancing, involuntarily or otherwise*. She could take off every item of clothing above the belt line and it wouldn’t really change that.

(I’ve mentioned this before and some folks seemed to think I am fixated on seeing the outline of labia or something. Others assume I mean the posterior aspect, unless I specify “in front, in front”. Still others presume it’s a legs thang. Nope, nope, and again nope. It’s the whole complex of curves and contours, ideally with a nice jaunty V shape front dead center. Yeah, there. Wow.)

• and I’m really not a perverted creep. I don’t, like STARE, or at least I hope not.