Unless you are someone with whom I already have a relationship, or have given unmistakeable indications of wanting to have a relationship with, Choice #2. Always.
Watching fireworks? Who has a problem with that? I loose respect for everyone who likes guns and motorcycles, but I generally expect women to have better taste/more sense; so they have, as it were, farther to fall.
Yes, women look. If I’m looking at a guy I find physically attractive but don’t know, I’m just looking; enjoying his appearance but mostly on a visual-esthetic level (“he’s pretty”, “nice hands”, “I’d like to draw him”), usually not coupled to an immediate erotic reaction, and no significant desire to touch. If it’s a guy who I find physically attractive and also know and like, that’s when I want to touch him.
I, and most women of my acquaintance (with whom I have discussed the matter), don’t. Really, men are much more concerned with penis size than women are.
Kapri, have most of the men you’ve been with been good-looking? The really hot guys do tend to get a tad selfish about sex. Plain to below-average guys like me don’t have that luxury. We know we’re not attracting women left and right, so we depend on the repeat business.
If it’s a guy whom I might be interested in having sex with at some point but I haven’t made up my mind yet, it goes sorta like this: “Do I like him? Am I ready for this? Is he going to get pissy if I say no? Am I never going to see him again if I say no? Do I actually want to have sex right now, here, with him?” This usually results in a “no thanks, maybe later”, with possible relationship fallout if he takes it badly.
If it’s a guy whom I am interested in having sex with, after appropriate signals of interest, it goes like this: “Woot! Wait, do I have a condom? Does he have a condom? Is he going to get pissy if I mention condoms?” (Firm personal rule: no condom, no exchange of bodily fluids. Some guys aren’t on board with this; they can go play with themselves.)
Neck & shoulders are very sexy (also arms and hands). Can’t explain why, but “nice”, for me, is a smooth line where you can see the different planes and angles of the bones and muscles, not sloping or musclebound or, god forbid, hairy.
Like the package size thing refereed to above, “manliness” is something that mostly men care about. Most women I know (20- and 30-something scientists, mainly) think “manly” is a crock of bull manure and actively prefer men who do “unmanly” things.
For me, when this has happened, it’s because I forgot I was wearing something low-cut (I usually don’t). How I feel about catching someone looking depends on the response; if he looks away quickly and pretends it didn’t happen I can forgive. If he acts like he thinks I’m slutty because of it, or like he thinks he’s going to get laid, I’ll get pissed.
It feels like, um, being aroused? I never had a problem identifying the feeling. As to spreading, when I am aroused I (unconsciously) do Kegels, which brings the sensation to the location, as it were. But there’s definitely a component to physical contact elsewhere; the more contact the better, in fact.
I imagine it feels fairly similar to what an aroused woman feels, except shaped outwards. Same nerves and everything. So just try to imagine your clit floating several inches away, except not quite as sensitive because it’s more spread out.
Most of the time (especially in public or if I’m trying to ignore it) it’s just a nonspecific pressure and uncomfortableness. You can definitely feel the tip pushing through your boxers/briefs. Without clothes the sensations are much less blunt. And I can feel a lot of movement in the family jewels as well. Everything gets warm too.
And we can control our penises consciously, besides the growth part. We can flex the base pretty strongly. I think in some circles this can lead to what’s called belly thwapping. I believe this is the functional equivalent of a woman clenching down.
Definitely.
I suppose, but you guys have swelling too, just more spread out.
Women: When you’re wearing a one-piece swimsuit and go to the bathroom, do you remove the suit from the top down so you’re basically naked? Or do you move the bit of fabric at your crotch to the side?
When you’re wearing a skirt, do you unbuckle (or whatever) the skirt and bring it down with your underpants when you’re using the toilet, or do you just undo your underpants underneath the skirt and let the skirt drape over the toilet?
