Exactly. The Feds count parents’ income when calculating financial aid even if the child is no longer really dependent on them, except in certain cases, until about age 25.
I’m inclined to think that the parents are obligated to pay for her remaining high school tuition, assuming she remains on a path to graduate this year.
Yes, at 18 she’s legally an adult, but withdrawing all support partway through her senior year is pretty terrible. It would probably be better if legal adulthood occurred at high school graduation for kids who were on a path to graduate in a normal time period. Hmm, I wonder if making the age of legal adulthood be high school graduation or 19 years old, whichever came first, would have positive results?
The rest of it, she can go pound sand.
She can enroll in public school.
It’s not that simple. The graduation requirements for public school vs private school can be wildly different.
We moved to NY from CT in my son’s senior year. Just to graduate he had to take make up three Regents exams and an overload of requirements because NY didn’t recognize certain courses he took as meeting their requirements. If he wanted the advanced diploma he would have had to take NINE Regents exams his senior year (on top of the ones he had to take as a senior anyway)
And THEN can they disown her?
Yes, for dating the wrong person and not following their rules, they can go ahead and disown her.
It’s the most rational response, I think. One wouldn’t want to continue having a relationship with a child who was disrespectful.
What about the lawsuit. I think you are forgetting the lawsuit.
I’d be willing to bet that wasn’t her idea.
When she moved out, they played the “I’m going to fuck you over” card by stopping the tuition payment to the school they approved her attending. That is when hey disowned her, long before the lawsuit. The lawsuit is just one party trying to get owed money from another party.
The parents either legally owe it or they don’t, and considering that they have disowned her already, if they do owe it, she should get every penny they owe.
Sounds like they all deserve each other.
If they owe it…shouldn’t the private school get it and not the daughter?
She’s suing them for more than just the tuition. I assume if she wins she will pay the school.
I see the tuition as a shot across the bow, a declaration of war. If you don’t follow my rules, little lady, I’m fucking you over, making you change schools the last half of Senior Year, cutting off all contact and financial support. Scorched Earth diplomacy.
Then they tell the paper that they miss her and want her home?
I agree. Everyone seems to agree that she’s a good student (honors student, accepted to multiple schools with at least one merit-based financial aid package) and no one has offered up any examples of actual bad behavior. All I see a couple of parents outraged that their 18-year-old isn’t the sweet, compliant child she was a couple of years ago.
There are many, many parents out there who would be delighted if their biggest beef with their kid was the choice of boy/girlfriend, some mouthing off, and a missed curfew or two. This girl’s parents seem to be living in some fantasy land in which parents never argue with their barely-adult children.
The parents should pay up the high school tuition, since they (not their daughter) contracted with the school. If they’re honestly convinced that she’ll blow the college fund on the teenage-girl equivalent of hookers and blow, they can easily make some arrangement to limit her access to it while still making it available to college-related expenses. Keeping the car seems petty and vindictive to me, since it was a gift to her (besides, paying for upkeep and insurance on a car when you’re 18 is punishment enough).
Going only on what’s been reported, the parents are assholes.
Yes, but the school isn’t suing them (yet). The school may be going after the daughter for the unpaid tuition, or they may have told her that they can’t/won’t go after the parents.
Typically private school tuition is governed by a financial contract. I highly doubt the daughter is a party to the financial contract. There are usually is remedies for non-payment such as expulsion of the student etc.
As most likely the financial contract is between the school and the parents, the daughter doesn’t have standing to force specific performance by the parents on the financial contract with the school. Last I checked private school education is not a right.
And you see this as wrong? Are they not to have any say in the household rules, seeing as they alone pay the bills? If a house-guest (and that’s what someone over 18 is) flouts your rules, are you required to continue to pay their room and board.
The rules:
We see responsibility very differently.
Well the bitch lost in court today. Parents do not have to pay for her private school tuition, attorney fees, no allowance or additional financial support.
The issue of college tuition is still open for another hearing.
!st, you don’ set curfews for 18yo’s, that’s just crazy talk.
2nd, who she decides to be in a relationship with is none of their damn business.
She is free to find alternative housing if she finds the rules odious.
She’s welcome at my house.