Realizing that You Are at Risk of Becoming like Your Partner's Psycho Ex

[Moonrise]

@Cheesesteak

Gini, for all of her legitimately frustrating faults (taking the OP at face value) deserves only to be broken up with.

You’re right and I came to realize this gradually.

But it took a long time for me to admit it. That woman had a lot going for her. As I said in the other thread,

@Moonrise

She was bright (PhD in a STEM field), introverted like me, tolerant of my quirks which she either found cute or actually shared. She was also very pretty, turning heads wherever she went, not to mention over 10 years younger than me (34 and 45). But what won me over was her kindness. She was so sweet she often seemed naive.

Moreover, she had a lot of charm. It’s not just that she was very pretty. First, not trying to brag, but I’ve been lucky in having relationships with other very pretty women in my “glory days”. Heck, my ex-wife would have given her a run for her money. Second, there are many pretty women who have no charm whatsoever. But Gini… that woman was… addictive.

For the record, we broke up three weeks ago. And while I’ll probably forever feel nostalgic about the illusion I fell in love with (our first couple of months together were magical), I realize that I don’t really miss her, so that’s good.