Yeah, my kid is 10 and I’m starting to just see the terrifying complexity of this part of her life as it will develop over the next decade. Hearsay, gossip, evaluating the reliability of a source, feuds, grudges, cliquishness, what’s the dividing line between being a nasty exclusionary clique and playing with the friends you like best, worrying about your reputation, wanting everyone to like you, dealing with explicit and implicit social threats such as “I’m going to destroy your reputation!”, and learning how to nut up and talk directly yet kindly to the people who may have a problem with you.
That’s all just one situation, by the way. And there are no romantic subplots yet. Og help us when boys and crushes are in the mix.
So, any good books, web sites, Very Special Episodes, pamphlets, etc. that y’all have found particularly valuable? Any thoughts or advice on what has worked for you as a kid or a parent? (I’m useless - my social life devolved steadily until I left high school early to escape.)
I have lots of ideas for each aspect of the problem, but I’m seeing that these problems aren’t going to present as simple questions - it’ll most likely be a tangle of issues where a coherent and memorable, but actually useful piece of advice is going to be difficult to craft.