So, our daughter came to live with us last year. She was 6 and is now 7. When she first came, she didn’t want to make any friends as she didn’t really in her heart feel that this was permanent.
Well, she has now accepted (and is loving the fact) that she will be with us forever. The problem is, she is in the same school as she was when she was being anti-social.
She’s in grade 2 and no one wants to play with her. To the point that she will ask repeatedly until it can get physical (shoving away by the other kids).
I keep telling her that if they don’t want to play with her that she can’t make them and to go find someone else to play with.
However, the only girl in her grade who will play with her is an even bigger social pariah than she is. When she plays with her, it just makes the situation with the other kids worse (plus, she doesn’t really like the girl so much).
The worst part is that I have a (perhaps inflated) good self esteem and did at that age. If someone didn’t want to play with me, then they weren’t worth my time. So, I really don’t know how to deal with the fact that she gets sad and puts the blame on herself.
Anyone else been through this? Tips for what I should tell her? I don’t want to talk to the teacher as I feel that would breech the trust she has in me.