Ah, irishgirl! Thank god you’ve finally joined us!
(While I’ve been enjoying all yer… uh… creative solutions, I did solicit opinions in all seriousness. This is a problem that greatly distresses my friend. Here, have this bottle of fine whiskey. On me. ** irishgirl** and I are just going to talk seriously over here in the corner for a bit.)
She hasn’t been diagnosed with endometriosis, and doesn’t seem to have other uterine-centric problems (ie - painful periods) besides feeling like she’s being punched in the gut when making love to her beloved. She is currently in therapy to explore if there are other emotional issues that might be causing her suffering.
She hasn’t had a laproscopy. I’ll advise her to ask her therapist and gyno about it. Certainly I don’t want her to have surgery if it’s not warranted. I just would like her to actually enjoy this very important aspect of her relationship.
She also seems to have a very low libido, and I do have to wonder if there’s any solution to that (perhaps she’s not lubricating enough. I’ll mention if using K-Y might help). It just seems to be a vicious circle. She dreads sex and I’m sure tenses up because of that, which likely contributes to the pain, which makes her dread sex, and round and round it goes.