Well, I mean recommend some sex positions for a friend with a retroverted uterus. Are there any that are better than others to lessen the pain she experiences during intercourse?
And, while you’re here, if you’ve ever had the surgery to correct this problem, could you tell me about it so I can tell her what to expect? Will it allow her to have sex without pain?
In order to recommend a suitable sex position, I would first need a detailed list of all positions that have been tried. I hope she’s graduated beyond the “old miss!”
Woman on top so that she can totally control the depth of penetration.
Maybe he could use flexible cock rings (or doughnuts in the old joke) so that the whole shaft isn’t inserted.
There are other positions where deep penetration is unlikely - standing, her on her back and him on his side…but try them and see which work and which they like.
Tried Amazon yet? There’s a good recommended reading-list at www.sexuality.org. Personally, I liked the books by Lou Paget . Very practical, realistical and effective.
But all that’s for positions and techniques in general. Genral knowledge is alwyas good. Then again, maybe there’s a bit about inverted uteri in there, as well.
If I’m correct, (I’m no expert ) an inverted uterus is one whose opening into the vagina is closer to her back then to her bellybutton, right?
I suppose any technique aimed at not penetrating too deep, so as not to hurt the uterus is good, then. Lou Paget gives a few examples of positions that accomplish that. Doggy-style allows for deep penetration, so that might hurt; missionary and not going all the way in might be better.
Here’s a description of a retroverted uterus aka a tipped uterus. I imagined she’s getting… uh… banged in her uterus (as opposed to to getting hit in the cervix, cuz believe me, that’ll stop any session in its tracks immediately. I imagine that’s kinda like getting racked. She says it feels more like menstrual cramps.)
There was a young woman from Norway,
Who hung by her heels in a doorway.
She called to her man,
“Get over here, Dan,
I think I’ve discovered one more way.”
Mrs. Survey and I have this problem - she has adhesions around her fallopian tubes that have required two substantial surgeries. One result (or cause, I’m pretty hazy on the how, why and such of all this) is that we have to be extraordinarily careful during intercourse. Here’s what is out of the question:
her on bottom, legs over my shoulders.
her on top, facing away.
her on bottom, lying face-down.
me behind her.
bent over the oven, washer, dryer, hood of car, hood of lawn mower, etc.
Her on top, facing me is ok, as she controls tempo, depth, etc. She has found the least painful to be side-to-side, me behind her. Unfortunately, she also finds this to be the least pleasurable unless she’s staring at a picture of Matthew McConaughey during the action. Missionary position is fine as long as it is slooooooow; the complete opposite of our initial activities (typically drunken) but eh - thats time for you. Supposedly when/if she has a baby this will somehow magically go away (of course, this is from the same doc who told us pre-surgery she’d be 100% back to normal three weeks after the procedure - six years ago).
I’m surprised someone will agree to do the surgery… it’s considered pretty old-fashioned.
A retroverted uterus is a variant of normal, and usually causes women no problems. A “fixed” retroverted uterus is a different matter and is associated with conditions like endometriosis.
I hope your friend has had a laparoscopy and been fully investigated to exclude other causes of the pain, because if the retroverted uterus was incidental or caused by some other pathology the operation may not be successful.
The most important thing for her to do is rest afterwards, and take things slowly.