There’s this obscure ethereal line that seems to exist in relationships - specifically with how a guy will treat his girlfriend/significant other.
Many women I’ve spoken to express dissatisfaction at how their men don’t pay enough attention, don’t care about things that are important to the woman and, a biggie, it seems… they don’t pay attention or listen. Or that the man is too controlling or bossy.
On the other side of the fence, you have the women who feel their guy is “too wishy-washy” (as a female friend has put it to me) and is actually too sensitive, doesn’t seem to take control enough and so forth.
It seems that in my relationships I lean a bit to the “wishy washy” side and, try as I might, I cannot understand where that “line” is so I make sure not to cross over from being sensitive enough and attentive enough to being too wishy washy.
For reference, since this is for my own self-improvement (well, hopefully :-), I am by nature not the macho type. I’m not wimpy either. I tend to be empathetic and sincere and I understand and accept and genuinely try to do my part in a relationship to make it work… as well as all that goes with it: attentiveness, communication (biiiiggie there)… all the things that women say are important to them. However, at some point I seem to be crossing a line.
So I’m curious… from a woman’s perspective - and men are welcome to answer this as well if they have any insights to provide…
What are ways that you appreciate and respect a man in your life to treat you or act around you, etc? At what extent do you think a guy would become too “wishy-washy” for you and, if you could, please provide some pointers on how to be “strong enough but sensitive enough” in a relationship?
I can’t be the ass-hole type. I can’t even act it. It’s just not in my makeup. So that’s out of the question, but I have a feeling there’s a large chasm of difference to work within there :-).
I hope I’ve expressed what I’m looking for clearly enough here…
Thanks in advance!