Well, to make things sound a million times worse, I don’t even feel like that’s true. Dude won’t let me go without a fight, and he used to have my cell number only. Now he has my cell, home, email, address, work, mom’s house, family’s Facebook, etc. Do not feel the urge to punch me in the face because I already feel it so, so many times.
Please PM me if you’re dealing with something like this. Especially if you’re dealing with it better than I am. Otherwise: I know, of course you’re right.
I don’t know, I try to be all the way honest, which I try to be here also. I think most counselors aren’t particularly helpful to most people, especially not counselors-in-training like poor people like me get. But I try, and have tried for so many years.
regrets saying that last thing
Don’t be mean to me, okay? I already know how fucked up it is.
No, I’m not dealing with this because I made a very conscience effort to not bring drama into my life. My basis for picking men: if my daughter was in my shoes, would I be happy for her?
The last part wasn’t the messed up part, IMO. It was the first part, you acting the powerless victim.
If you tell him it’s over (with conviction) it’s over. If not? its called a restraining order. The more you describe him the worse both of you appear.
Honestly, I hope the best for you in the coming year.
Another one to chime in that this is not a good situation.
a 13-yo daughter also picks up on the fact that her mom has been hanging out with this guy for a long time with no significant commitment. That sends a message, too.