Oh boy. Me again. Another calling fix. Background first.
Went out on Saturday. Very nice, very attractive girl gives me her number - makes me repeat it back to her so she knows I know it and says she’d really like it if I called her.
So I posted and asked if I was supposed to wait a set number of days. Everyone (most everyone) said, “Nah, call if you like her.”
So I called on Sunday evening. She had company and gave me her work number and suggested that we could do lunch. She asked me to call Monday morning.
So 10:45ish, I call her office - she is with a patient and so I left my office number. (She does not have my home number - she just gave me hers.) It’s now 2:30 p.m.
Here’s what is going through my nutters head. Did she get the message? If she did, why not call back? Of course, I haven’t a clue what her office is like or how busy it is. She’s a Dr.'s assistant. But I feel sort of badly that she doesn’t know my home number so she couldn’t even call me at home if she wanted.
I’m being obsessive compulsive. heh. But what really is the decorum now? If she doesn’t call back today, do I call her tonight? If she didn’t get the message, will she think I’m a jerk for not calling? I’m telling you, I don’t understand women.
Well, I’m not exactly an expert on relationships. I hope you don’t mind a quick (but maybe naive) reply (okay… where are the “experts”???)
It’s ok. The ball is in her court, and if she wants to call back, she will. She gave you her work and home numbers, so she probably does. She probably just got wrapped up in office stuff.
Alright, Tibby. Just relax…take a deep breath…there you go.
Now, DON’T call her tonight at home if she hasn’t called you already. If she does like you, she WILL call you back. Give her until tomorrow then call her again the day after that if she hasn’t called.
If you start calling asking “Why didn’t you call me?” you’re gonna seem desperate and clingy and women HATE that.
Maybe she read THE RULES & is making you wait? You didn’t call her back right away yourself, so…
“If she does like you” How can she know if that’s the case so soon? Do women really work that fast?
I’d absolutely give her the benefit of the doubt. 10:45 to 2:30 really isn’t that long (it just seems that way.)
Who knows, maybe she never got the message, or lost your number, or whatever. I agree with the rest of the crew here - give her a day or two, and then call her again.
Bearing in mind, of course, that even when I was single, I had trouble getting women to call me.
She called me back later that afternoon - was swamped at work.
Yeah, oddly, the time between 10:45 and 3:30 (when she called) seemed long. I rarely find someone that I find 1) interesting and 2) attractive. This sounds horrible but most of the lesbians I see out are complete…well, they are very manly and I like extremely femme women. I’m femme as well. Also, sheesh, you know what kind of complete goofballs you can meet at a bar?
Anyway, all is well. I think we’re going to do lunch this week. Jeeze, I’m sort of a freak, aren’t I? Does this dating stuff eventually get ho-hum and normal?
“Anyway, all is well. I think we’re going to do lunch this week. Jeeze, I’m sort of a freak, aren’t I?
Does this dating stuff eventually get ho-hum and normal?”
Can only speak from personal experience but I would say I have to meet & date about 20 women before I find one that can relate properly. As a matter of fact, that’s about right as I just did find one & I think I met around 18 or 19 before this one.
