This thread (Man, bear, woman,what's the meme I'm missing?) was closed a few days ago and I had questioned this in the “About this message board” category. It was suggested that someone reopen it in GD, however, I’m not really sure that there is a debate here or that it should be open to debate. Additionally, the OP of that thread was extremely open-ended and non-specific.
Most people got the gist of the meme but the discussion degraded into either a statistical analysis of bears vs men in the woods; or a discussion of the initial conditions (eg crowded with backpackers vs one bear or man vs…etc) of the woodland scenario; or a general, widespread and comprehensive thread-shitting exercise.
I believe that this is an extremely important topic to the extent that I’m posting it as a discussion for women and their allies with the following rules:
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disregard the bear, man, woods meme. It’s an interesting analogy or allegory or something, but completely irrelevant;
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people (in this case one half of the human population) feel the way they feel. Do not come to this discussion to tell them that they’re wrong;
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please do not try to drag this off track with variations of whataboutism or “population X has it just as bad”. That may be true but it’s not the purpose of this.
I am a 65 yr old guy who was a naval officer from the '80s into the early 2000s and I happened to see the first class of women brought into Royal Military College, as well as women introduced into warships as warfare officers (we now have had a few (I don’t know how many) female captains of warships now) and I did know a female former artillery officer. Since then I’ve been in a large multinational company during which I’ve had a number of female project managers.
I’ve always felt that, outside of physical strength issues, most women should be just as capable as most men at doing most things, and I can’t believe that that even needs to be said.
Nothwithstanding, my above thoughts on the issue, ISTM that women get a really crappy deal simply because of physical strength limitations or differences (thus “might makes right”), and because most don’t have deep voices and big size (I’m constantly told I have a great FM voice and I’m 6’ 3", so I appear far more competent and wise than I actually am) they may not be taken seriously.
One of my favourite past-times is to just spend an hour or two at a coffee place or bar with a good book and have time by myself, regardless of how crowded the place is. Can most women do that without being pestered?
So I’ll first ask: Women dopers, is this a worthwhile discussion for you or would you (and other dopers) prefer that this be something else?
If so, just how comfortable, safe do you generally feel out there? How “on guard” or on-edge do you feel you have to be most of the time? What do you want us men to know?