In this thread, tell about the one aspect of your personality that you are most likely to be complimented on by the group to whom you are attracted. These can be any of the things that make you “you”, but please only put answers about physical traits in the other thread.
In other words, which part of your personality do you believe attracts other people. This is not necessarily the aspect of your personality that you consider your best. Also indicate your basic personal info (gender/sexual preference/age or range).
Example 1:
Male
Bisexual
20s
Both men and women comment upon my knowledge of Star Wars trivia.
Example 2:
Female
Straight
40ish
Men tend to first notice my all encompassing knowledge and mastery or macrame.
Honestly, I don’t think anyone has ever given me a compliment that qualifies me for this thread. Women tell me I’m “nice” or “patient”, usually when I am fixing their computers. Along with the “nice eyes” comment I posted in the first thread, this means that I am among the least remarkable people around. Ah, well.
(My wife thinks I’m pretty funny, but she’s in the minority on that.)
Personality-wise, I often get compliments on how easy-going I am with new people and how confident I am. Not necessarily true but I guess I put up a really good front.
You know, its kind of hard to write this without sounding conceited. I must know more people who are more likely to comment than most. Both men and women comment on my intelligence, affability, willingness to help out, and something like “having a personality despite being a physicist”. Probably the best compliments from coworkers are of the form, “You’re not only ‘book smart’, you’re ‘usefully smart’.” No one ever directly comments on affability, but that is how I roll up “friendly, kind, and patient”. The last set of compliments are along the lines of “Physicists are not supposed to have a personality”, or, my favorite left handed compliment, “Slow has a Ph D in physics, but you’d never know it.”
IMHO, there is an age categorization that you are missing here. Men of all ages compliment on the same traits. Young women are more likely to comment on what I termed affability, and older women (mid-30s and up), on my how much behind the scenes stuff I do. My theory is that both ages value that which makes life easier at their stage of life. For guys, its moot.
I’m most likely to be complemented on being friendly and helpful by both sexes. Also for knowing lots of arcane stuff, in the “Oh, you’re doing a crossword puzzle? Ask JRBrown!” kind of sense.
Guys tell me I’m more patient than most. Women tell me I’m “so sweet”. Back when I was dating, I heard the comment “you’re not like most guys” from women who were interested. But for all I know it was just flirty/pillow talk.
My favorite compliments are: “you’re fun!” and from my niece and nephew: “you always make friends with the servers and flight attendants - that’s cool.”
When people compliment you on stuff like that - you just keep wanting to have it be true.
Guys seem to like that I’m bright, independent, upbeat, and that I have interests that aren’t typical for a woman, especially at my age: science fiction & fantasy literature, playing World of Warcraft, etc.
One experience that’s still dear to my heart: I went to Worldcon a couple years ago, and had a drink with a younger guy I’d been talking to while waiting in line for an autograph. He told me he liked my breasts right off (I wasn’t wearing anything revealing), but what really attracted him was my knowledge of science fiction literature. He said “that combination is just hotness on top of hotness!”
Men/female gamers are apt to comment on my directness or, depending on context, my skill at “the dozens” and/or dropping witty put-downs and (more commonly) wittier responses to putdowns.
Women in general tend to comment on my big-brothery manner, in that I’m described as being sensitive but willing and able to bluntly tell when they’re doing something misguided.
Guys normally like that I’m almost “guy-like” in my relationships. I don’t do drama or overly emotional fretting. I’m pretty straight forward and low maintenance when it comes to relationships.
I note that some of the hottest women I know do not believe themselves to be generally considered hot. Even in the face of multiple commentators telling them so.
Eh, couldn’t hurt to check. If you ever roll Alliance on Elune, give me a holler.
sense of humor. I am very easy going and good natured and would rather joke around then be all serious. My name truly does reflect my personality–no worries–hakuna matata
I guess it would be my sense of humor. People don’t neccessarily comment on a person’s personality traits directly as they do on the physical, but yeah, at some point guys invariably let me know they find me amusing (oh lordy, I hope they’ve been laughing *with *me all this time).
While it’s hit or miss with women, most men young enough for me to find interesting in return find my dry, sarcastic sense of humor funny. Less often, but still often enough that I’ve noticed a trend, I’ve been told I “know a scary amount of things” and “think like a guy sometimes.” I’m not sure the last one is a good thing, though.
