ok, i have some experience on the subject but i am not sure. usually men want to go almost directly to the act. i have tried to find out what the enjoy the most but yet i have not drawn a conclusion. so pls men and women out there, tell me what do you think is the best to do to satisfy a man, apart from oral which is the most obvious. even though some techniques will be welcome 
A nice steak and a baked potato is always satisfying.
yeah! very helpful! so no more sex just provide him food! i like that!
That varies entirely from man to man. Activities, positions, props, noise levels, all matters of personal preference. Experiment, and make sure he’s working on figuring out how best to satisfy you, too. If not, there’s not point wasting your time bumping uglies with him.
Welcome to SDMB! 
That’s a very general question, so I’ll give you a very general answer. Be willing to please him. The rest is experimentation, as CrazyCatLady said, unless you’re with a man who already knows what he likes. In that case, ask him.
For specific techniques, read some of the sex threads, here. You’ll get some good information and a lot of laughs. And, look for a good book on the subject. There’s lots of information available.
i agree that it varies. for example my ex had a bad experience with his previous girlfriend and in the first weeks of our relationship he didn’t feel comfortable when i was caressing him. another ex was very keen to start immediately and he did not like me to try to make him feel ‘even better’. so i am just wondering what men like.
it is very important to satisfy and being satisfied. i don’t know, maybe it’s the guys i have dated till now.
thanks Davebear i have already read a lot of threads here and it was the reason i decided to become a member!!
Ok, first off, men, I’m on your side. Really. TRUST ME! I’m a man!
Natalia, you’re absolutely right. Men are all the same, all we want is IT, right now, boom, we’re done, thank you very much now make me a sandwich.
That being said, realize that men are, generally speaking, stupid and short-sighted. ESPECIALLY when it comes to… er… coming. What we want is not always what’s best for us.
So, to ‘please a man’, ya really got two options.
One, let him go to town at his own pace. That means you go down, get back up, flip over, whatever… it’ll be quick but BOY will he be happy! A little practice and you can learn to enjoy it too. q;}
Two, Slow His Ass Down. And the rest of him. Lay down the lines… take control! A lot of women think they shouldn’t do this… that they should be submissive in bed, men prefer that type of women. True, we do like to think we’re in control. So make him THINK he’s in charge… but slow things down. He wants oral? Give him oral… SLOWLY. Make it sexy enough and he’ll wait all day for the touch of your lips! And LOVE every second of it! Simply put, teach him to do it at YOUR speed.
Three, Hi Opal. q;}
Remember, most of all, sex isn’t just about bumping uglies… it’s about the whole experience of man with woman (or whatever floats your personal boat. I don’t care.)
so, men are very easy when it comes to satisfaction? i mean just the ‘act’ (and by that i don’t mean pure sex without cuddling) is ok since they have an orgasm? at least in most cases, because in the past when i asked what they liked they said "i like everything, i don’t mind’.
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It sounds like you have run into some guys with some minor problems. Neither one is what I’d call ideal, though I hesitate to call either one abnormal. But, the first one was apparently traumatized, to some degree. And, the second one was, for lack of more clincal term, a pig. And, it’s good that you dumped him. Unfortunately, his type is fairly common, especially among younger men. Are you, perhaps, fairly young, yourself?
I wouldn’t base your image of what men like on either of those experiences. You can incorporate them into the concept of the variety you may run into in the future, but neither one is what I’d call typical. Even the second one isn’t a typical pig, because most pigs are more than happy to let the woman work harder at pleasing them.
I’m sure you were expecting someone to object to this, so let me be the first. Men are no more all alike than women are. Or fingeprints. Similar, perhaps, but not the same.
Most of us may want sex, all the time, but we don’t all want it the same way. And, your “wham, bam, thank you ma’am” approach may be nice, sometimes, but it certainly isn’t what I want, all the time. So, please don’t paint all of us the same color.
And, teaching her to be a sex toy is not doing her any favors, either. Sure, it’ll please the pigs who just want to use her, but I believe she was asking about men. She’s already had experience with at least one boy, and one pig. I think she’s looking to branch out.
But, the “slow down” advice was good. That is definitely a skill worth learning.
i am 23! i can’t say that i have a lot of experience in the subject but i think i am going to agree. yeah, they were young and even younger than me! maybe i should start focusing on older men or at least more mature men.
Well, I’m a male. And I have to confess that all of the stroking and nibbling and so forth really makes the end point a whole lot better. So…I would encourage lovers to start with the idea of each (not just one!!!) person trying to touch their partner with the goal of pleasing…and pleasure for themselves. Learn to enjoy giving pleasure, and getting pleasure will really make the whole thing much better.
Having said all of that…as a (ahem)…younger man, I was really much more “goal oriented”. But as experience came along, I began to realize that “it” wasn’t going anywhere. So I learned to loose myself in the foreplay aspects. Then everything got lots better for both of us…and I still reached my goal…grin. So maturity can help some of us in some ways.
So try to communicate, and expect your partner to listen. This goes both ways.
And as a bit of very much my own opinion, you should not think of this as “how to please him”. You are engaging in a two-way process here, not a performance that is one way. Sorry for the mini-rant…but both of you should be pleased by making the other person and yourselves enjoy the experience.
Best of luck!
Sex
Food
TV
Perhaps I am odd, but I derive at least as much pleasure from my lover’s “excitement” as I do from my own. One mutually enjoyable act is very fun, at times. Traded acts of selflessness can be even more exciting, though, because they allow each person to focus entirely on their own feelings. No pressure to have “fun” at the same time. No hijack intended, but ladies- durin"traded acts" do you prefer to cum first or second? As second seems to be the pole position(no pun intended).
Cumming together is better 
Yeah, I’m gonna go with Little Nemo on this one. I’ve never heard of men who care too much about anything other than sex. Some like TV, food and beer, but their interests never go beyond that. That’s all you need to know about men, babe.
Sorry if the “young” question offended you. I’m sure 23 seems very old, or at least mature, to you. From my perspective at 45, it doesn’t. At that age, the average boy is just beginning to become a man, whether he denies it, or not. And, the behavior you described was classic boy behavior. That was why I asked.
I wasn’t recommending that you seek out older men, but looking for more maturity would be a good thing. Sunstone’s post is a good description of the process of a boy becoming a man, sexually. Boys think having sex makes them a man. Men realize having good sex, treating their partners with respect, is what separates them from the boys, sexually.
And, boys aren’t entirely to blame, for their behavior. We live in a very strange and repressed society. Good information on sex is readily available but, if you seek it out, you’re often looked upon as some sort of pervert. And, with the massive hormonal hurricanes raging through their systems, and virtually no information on what to do with or about it, other than what they get from locker room stories, boys are naturally enthusiastic, but not very considerate, lovers. I know. I’ve been there.
greenvegan80, you’re not the least bit odd. Unless, perhaps, you’re 18, and feel that way. In which case, you’re way ahead of the curve on sexual maturity. But, that would be odd in a good way.
And, natalia, don’t listen to MeanOldLady, on this subject. She’s not really all that mean, but she is bitter as burnt coffee. She’s a very beautiful woman, so she would naturally attract all sorts of men. My guess is that she simply has had very little success at filtering out the pigs and finding the worthwhile men. Am I close, Meanie?
For me it’s three things:
- Being horny and showing it
- Taking the initiative
- Being willing to experiment
I should put “oral sex” in there as well, but let’s throw that in with point 3 and go home early.
Right now I’d go for a long makeout session. I don’t think my girlfriend is a prude, but she doesn’t like to kiss very much. She thinks she’s bad at it. I tell her then she needs more practice!