In most relationships men want sex more than women (of course, there are exceptions to this rule). My typical relationship starts off passionate but fades, in a sexual sense, pretty quickly.
I’d like to figure out how to keep that spark going so that my girl wants to have sex, give blowjobs etc more often. For the guys in-the-know, how’s it done?
Just lick your eyebrows every once in a while.
Maybe you need to improve your technique.
Flowers. Some chocolate too but lots of flowers.
oh, and tequila
When you do have sex with her, do it well. She’ll keep coming back for more.
Clean up after yourself, cook dinner, clean up after her, compliment her, show affection that’s not directly related to sex, don’t be an ass.
Take out the trash. BEFORE she asks you to. And don’'t forget to do the one or two tiny things she asks you to handle fromt he lists of 177 thingsthat she will accomplish around the house, or on behalf of your relationship.
Hugs. non-sexual hugs. If the only physical affection you give is sexual, no amount of technique will make her feel good about having sex with you.
Never criticise her body. You want sex? This si the form in which it comes. Deal with it or break up. Do NOT suggest improvements; you either like her or you don’t.
Read your own OP dude.
There you have correctly identified the problem - you are having relationships with women. Instead start having relationships with the group that want to have just as much sex as you - other men.
Happy trails.
I think you’re using a little too much chloroform. Just a dab on the rag is enough, a splash is too much.
In my experience, the sex wanting has been pretty equal. That said, the best way to keep them wanting you is to not be a dick.
I find women get really hot and bothered if you give them tantalizing glimpses of your balls. Just an occasional, “Whoops!” and a nut slips out. Drives 'em wild.
Top 3 aphrodisiacs for women:
Well, if they don’t like dicks he’s obviously trying to seduce the wrong women.
Let me put it in terms that the average man is likely to understand. I’m going to be horribly sexist here, and paint men with a broad brush.
Let’s say you have a car/truck/motorcycle. Do you leave it in the garage all the time, without any maintenance, and then expect it to go whenever you’re ready for a ride? You haven’t put any oil in it, the tires are flat, and quite possibly it’s out of gas. And the battery is dead or dying. Is that vehicle ready for a road trip as is? A relationship is like that. You gotta perform regular maintenance. Doing a bit of cooking and cleaning and showing affection is the maintenance of a relationship.
The most effective foreplay occurs in the kitchen.
It depends on what “pretty quickly” means. Are you talking 6 months or 6 weeks?
If it’s 6 months, you have to expect some of the “new car smell” to fade from the relationship. That doesn’t mean the sex has to stop, it just may be a bit less urgent. Make sure you do the relationship maintenance to keep her happy. Happy women want to have sex with the men who make them happy.
Spray some pheromones on your wrist and neck. I haven’t tried it myself but hear it works.
Treat her with kindness, tell her frequently that you love her, do everything you can to lift her up and make her happy, smile often, be romantic, surprise her with nice things (they don’t need to be expensive, outlandish or outrageous; gifts, dinners at nice restaurants and earnest compliments are all nice things), respect her. Do this, every day, and you’ll have pretty much all the sex you want.
A simple concept " When we fall in love we fall in love with the way that person makes us feel about ourselves".
I am 64 yrs old, average endowed and surly not a great lover, but my women are always happy to please me and do it often. They like to feel appreciated, sexy, protected, cared about and mostly just know how important they are to you. You can’t be an ass hole in the morning and Mr. charming at night. Foreplay is a 24/7 game.
“Riled up for sex”?
If Pepper Mill gets riled up, sex is the furthest thing from her mind.
The best technique for getting her in an apprpriate mood, I find, is to take our daughter to someone else’s house for a sleepover.