Oreo I know you weren’t really looking for options, just taking a poll, but you shouild look at this
It may save your marriage.
We have two showerheads. We never use or adjust each other’s. That’s just not right.
Buy a very low flow shower head under the guise of “saving water and energy” and replace the existing head with it. I got one a few years ago and the water won’t even reach the back wall. You won’t have to worry about getting blasted anymore and you’ll save money, assuming you have to pay to heat the water.
I have one of those shower heads that you can detach from the wall (it has an extra long hose) for all those hard to reach places. I have no clue what my husband does before he gets in there and I don’t really care but I get into the shower, turn on the water and get it up to temperature, detach the showerhead and point it at the drain, switch on the shower (to clear that cold water lurking in the plumbing that AudreyLevins mentioned) and then replace the showerhead and go about my shower. Then when done I shut all the water off and get out!
I’m amazed anyone would want to open the curtain at all with the shower on!
Boy you can sure tell who is short and who is tall around here. My guess is that Mr. Oreo is at least 6’ 2".
The people who design showers don’t expect anyone over 5’ 9" to use them. I’m 6’ 4" and if I want to get anything above about mid chest wet in the typical shower I have to tilt the shower head way the heck up and point it at the oposite end of the tub. Even then it takes some pretty interesting gymnastics to get the top of my head or face washed. If I were to run the water straight down I would not be able to even get my sholders wet without hunkering down.
You want to fix the problem for good? Well they make extenders to attach between the pipe and the shower head. With one of these installed the shower head is about a foot higher. Then hubby can point the spray down and still get wet. Or do what we did and get a hand held shower.
Isn’t this exactly the same logic that women use in the Great Toilet Seat Debate?
Like Fuji, I too thought of the height issue.
I figure the best solution is to hire a bathroom attendant to stay in your bathroom and adjust the shower head, toilet seat, etc. to the personal preference of whomever is going to use it next.
Yeah, what the heck, are Grayseal and I the only ones to do this? (and what’s this getting in at the other end stuff? You get in right where the water is! The other end of the tub is full of shampoo, bathwash and conditioner bottles) You aim it as far down and towards the shower wall as it will go before you turn the water on, so you can get in without it spraying all over the bathroom before you’ve had time to pull the curtain close (oh la de da some people can close it quickly. good for you, lol…although, if you got in at the other end…nah) then you adjust it so that it’s getting you properly wet. I can’t imagine getting into the shower without adjusting the nozel to my preference. I’d hate to have one that couldn’t be moved.
Why don’t you just superglue the shower head in place? Or better still, weld it into the position you like.
Why don’t you get him to point it down (for you) after he takes a shower, and then you point it back up (for him) after you take yours? At least it’s fair… you both have to adjust it and it doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong…
Mine points straight down, but it’s one of those ‘rain shower’ kinds, similar to what NutMagnet posted a link to, so it’s supposed to point straight down.
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My showerhead is 7 feet in the air, so it’s not even an issue.
And being 6’4", I must say this is the greatest location for a shower head.
If your man’s tall, Oreo, might I suggest moving the shower head up, that way it’s always pointing down, but no matter how tall he is, he’s able to get all wet very easily.
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I could have posted the same thing as tanookie except I’m a he and single. But I highly recommmend a shower massage with detachable head.
I don’t know about the OP, but our showerhead doesn’t adjust that easily, so tilting it towards the wall every day would be a PITA. However, that is what I used to do when I was in high school, and had a shower stall with the hand-held showerhead (therefore, no toe-testing available) It twisted easily in its bracket, so you’d turn it towards the wall, turn it on, adjust temperature, and turn it back.
I so want to replace our showerhead with a hand-held one…I really liked it. The ease of cleaning the tub/shower itself with it makes it worth it in my book. However, my husband is not convinced. He’s afraid that he’ll hate any new showerhead because it will be the low-flow type, and therefore he’ll just get misty rather than wet. Are all new showerheads that bad? How are the rainshower ones? I really wish that with showerheads you could try before you buy!
But, maybe we’d better not muck with it. After all, we do both like the same position 
so this one’s not so bad.
I bet he hangs the toilet paper roll wrong too!
Image setting: We have a + six foot long walk-in shower (not a tub) with molded benches on either end, large sliding glass doors and a rather high, removable shower head/hose apparatus.
The do-everything-the-same-everytime-its-nearly-ceremonial-nay-ritualistic routine: Adjust the head so it points to the middle of the floor (this puts the stream directly over the drain). Turn the handle. It’s a single lever with an automatic temperature control so, like the Chicken Rotisserie 2000, you just set it and…forget it. Fun and safe for kids of all ages. I then test the water with fingers before I get in because I hate surprise cold showers, and/or the cold residual. I always walk in from the opposite end of the stream. The consistent, predictable result; I walk into the same water temperature everytime, from the same direction everytime, knowing exactly where the water is going to hit me (about mid-shin). Every time.
The Irony: MrseNiGma does it completely different than I. Except for using hot water, thankfully. However, it has never been an issue for us because I still do the same thing everytime before I get in. If showering together, I give her a little lead time because she usually takes a little longer than I do. If she’s already in the shower when I come in, I really don’t care where the water is pointing. Or its temperature. Or anything. Odd that.
Ooooh…I LIKE this idea! Can he hand out mints, too?
To address other questions that have come up…
My husband & I are both of average height. I’m 5’7", he’s 5’10" so I’m not sure that’s the problem.
Thankfully, Mr. Oreo is wonderful about the toilet seat issue. In fact, I sometimes get in trouble because I don’t put the lid down. (My excuse is that one of our cats is obsessed with watching water go down any drain, so who am I to curb her enjoyment?)
I’m thinking that detachable shower head sounds like a good idea, if for no other reason than to make cleaning the tub easier. Anybody know if we’ll lose water pressure if we use one? I have very thick hair, so good water pressure is a must-have if I want to actually get all the shampoo out.
Every morning, I point the showerhead as close to the back wall as I can, turn it on, wait for the water to warm up.
Then I get in and aim it at about neck level (45 degrees or so, I guess unless it’s a really short shower).
I never readjust it after I get out of the shower.
Straight down would be weird. And too close to the front of the shower
I’m also with tanookie.
I a guy and married. Mrs. Z says the removable shower head offers some other benifit that I don’t know about and she calls it ‘Antonio’ for some weird reason.
Wow, Zebra. I never thought to name the shower massager 
Although that is a definite benefit that you just can’t get from a standard shower head unless you were once a circus performer!
Hubby is a foot taller than me (I’m 5’, he’s 6’) so we can’t use the same tilt angle for the shower head. Therefore, I always adjust it for me before I get in and he always adjusts it for him when he gets in. No problems! (Consequently, he does point it all the way at the back wall, to accomodate for height, I guess. Oh, and we both get in opposite the shower head since the throne is at the other end.)
There is a problem with water temp & pressure though…I prefer a practically room-temperature gentle shower, whilst Hubby would prefer to remove dirt along with the top layer of skin, judging by the blistering hot water and pressure.
Every time I shower I adjust the shower head to straight down—there are too many untrustworthy people who use the shower—kids and a man. I have long since learned to take nothing for granted—not even the toilet seat’s being down.
Don’t think of it as giving in to his shower-head whims if you adjust, think of it as taking care of yourself.