Save my Husband's life, or...Showers: A Poll

In My Humble Opinion
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Okay, I’ve only been married for less than a year, but I think we’re heading for either divorce or murder. You see…Mr. Oreo takes his showers the WRONG WAY!!

Here’s me…la di da…heading for the shower. I reach inside the shower curtain to turn on the water, then move down the bathtub to step in on the opposite end. Suddenly I’m hit in the face with a strong jet of hot water…water everywhere…on the floor, on the wall, on the toilet. Only then do I remember that hubby likes the water to spray across the length of the tub to hit the opposite wall, and that if I want to follow my usual routine, I must first adjust the nozzle accordingly.

This happens every single frickin’ morning.

Yes, I hear all you smug people out there telling me that for the sake of my marriage I should just get in the habit of adjusting the nozzle before I shower. But, I ask you…why should I be the one to adjust when he is so clearly in the wrong? He should be adjusting the nozzle after he showers for my convenience! Plus, I’m usually way too sleepy in the morning to use my common sense.

However, I have no desire to go to jail for murder…and since he makes way more money than I do divorce is out of the question. So Dopers…save my marriage. Answer this poll and if enough of you answer that you do it his way, you will save him from suffering the fate of Marion Crane. I will bow to the pressure of public opinion and adjust my habits accordingly.

(Warning…this poll really only applies to those of you with a shower/bathtub combo. Although if you’re a stall showerer, I’d still like to hear your opinion.)

In short, do you:

A. Keep the shower nozzle pointed more or less straight down, and climb into the tub on the end opposite the faucets, or do you

B. Point the shower nozzle across the tub, and climb into the tub on the end with the faucets?

[disclaimer] I am actually quite fond of my husband. References to murder and/or divorce above are used strictly for dramatic purposes.[/disclaimer]

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  1. Politely request he return the nozzle to “your” position. If he continues to forget, get over it.

  2. Adjust the nozzle BEFORE you get in and get over it.

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A question:
Did he move into your place? Or you into his?
If he moved into yours, you are well within your rights to ask that he move the damn nozzle. If the reverse, well, get used to moving it, sister. This is one of those things people never tell you about before you get married. You find out along the way. Ain’t it just wedded bliss?

If you moved into a new place together, I suggest flipping a coin. Whoever loses MUST 'fess up and take it like a woman. ie, no whining.

Oh, I tell a lie. One last question: Is he a morning person? If he is, while you are not, he should be a little more helpful and understanding in the morning.

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Okay, okay…I guess a little explaining is in order.

This post is not meant as a request for help w/ my marriage. Believe me, I’m not sitting up nights thinking about how this is wrecking my marriage.

It’s a very minor annoyance, one I haven’t even mentioned to him it’s so minor. So it’s not really something I need to “get over.” But it happened again when I went to take a shower tonight, which inspired me to start the thread.

I’m really just curious so started a poll on people’s showering habits.

Sorry I didn’t make myself clearer. I think in the future I’ll forgoe any attempts at wit–obviously not my strong suit.

And Maureen–just so your questions aren’t left unanswered…I moved in to his apartment, but both of our apartments before we moved together to this new one had stall showers, so the “issue” hadn’t come up until a couple of months ago. And neither of us is a morning person…we’re doomed! :wink:

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I always point the shower nozzle more or less down, and get in on the side opposite the tub.

I am a male if that makes a difference, and now that I’ve made my contribution I’d feel left out if I didn’t give you marital advice, so here goes,

Shower together

or if your schedules don’t jive like that and he won’t compromise tell him you’ll be showering with someone who will.

:wink:

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Ooh, Ottoerotic , I like your suggestion best!!

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For the poll - shower head points more or less straight down. I’ve never heard of anyone setting the shower head so it shoots straight across the tub - you can tell him from me that this definitely isn’t the proper way to do things.

I know exactly what you’re talking about, Oreo. Jim sleeps with the sheets tucked in, and I, like all reasonable, logical, intelligent people, sleep with the sheet and blankets untucked so I can wrap up in them and stick my feet out. We now have our bed made up so that Jim’s side is tucked in, and my side is waving in the breeze. We’re nothing if not all about the compromise. :smiley: (Of course, the minute Jim gets out of bed when I can sleep in, those sheets are untucked and wrapped around me the way God intended.)

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Oreo, you are obviously in the right here. Showers should point down. I have explained this before to the occasional person, but these people dont listen. They are probably the same people who install the toilet paper so that the new sheet comes out on the bottom side so you have to reach under and find it.

Perhaps the solution is to have some sort of bathroom training course for them. Maybe to teach this man of yours a lesson, you could attach a heavy weight to the shower head so that it will remain pointing down, leaving him with no option but to either work at removing the weight, or accepting the proper order of things. There is always a good, overly complex engineering solution to most problems. (yes, its obvious I’m a guy).

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How tall is your husband? This may have something to do with it.

Personally, I aim the head so the water hits as far back in the tub as possible while still landing in the tub. This just makes sense - to clean high places, approach the head. To clean low places, step away. Aiming the stream straight down would require me to contort myself in an very uncomfortable position merely to fit underneath the damned thing, and then the water hitting the lower bits would just be runoff from the rest of me.

I think your husband has the right idea.

As far as getting water everywhere, what sort of faucet are you using? With mine, I run the bath faucet as if I were filling the tub until the water is at the correct temperature, get in, draw the curtain closed, and then close the valve to redirect the flow through the shower head. No mess.

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Aiming it straight down? :confused:

That sounds pretty uncomfortable.

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So I’m the only one who directs it at a 45 degree angle?

I enter by the tap. I also make sure the water is at the right temperature and angle before getting in. No point in freezing to death.

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I’m for straight down too. At one time I had a faulty shower head that I had to remove and replace. I mean the whole thing from the wall out. For a while all I had was a pipe coming out of the wall overhead, showering was like standing under a hose. It was damn good fun in summer.

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My so leaves the shower mysterious pointed beyond straight down… so that it drips down onto the soap and melts it, meaning a bar of soap lasts about two days…

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The correct way to do it is to point the shower straight down or at the wall (if possible). Than, one can get in (on either side) and readjust the head as necessary.

Being pretty tall, I have gotten used to the fact that I will have to contort myself in order to get maximum soakage.

On a complete hijack, anyone else annoyed by water leaping off of their bodies and going over the curtain/door and soaking the rest of the room? I imagine that it happens more with the tall. This forces me to turn the pressure down until no water leaves the stall. I hate that.

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Both Mr. Ruby and I are 45 degree angle people. We both like the shower head in the same position so I guess we’ll just be married forevah!

We both enter on the far side of the shower, too.

Ahhh. Wedded bliss! :slight_smile:

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If he’s very tall, that’s probably the problem. I’ve shared a shower with a really tall man (I’m pretty short, around 5 feet), and we had a similar problem, though less annoying.

Tell him to go shower at a truck stop! :smiley:

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I put the shower so it points to the muddle/back area of the bath tub. It seems to make the most sense to me. Step back, and your upper body is out of the water, step forward, and your lower body is put of the water.

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Oreo, just be happy that he takes a shower everyday…

Maybe this is payback for leaving the toilet seat down every time he goes #1…
…or do you expect him to abide by your preference there as well?

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No one has mentioned what Mr. Levins does.

He gets in the shower, turns on the faucet, and then tests it with his toes until it gets to the right temperature. Then he turns on the shower.

Now, we all know that there’s cold water lurking in the shower head, which will take a second or two to blow out before the hot water reaches it.

He doesn’t care!

I’ve never seen anyone do this before. Me, I lurk safely outside the shower altogether, hiding on the other side of the curtain, testing the stream with my fingers, until the water reaches a desirable temperature. Then I get in on the side AWAY from the faucets, and slowly approach the stream of water at my own comfort level.

And I vary on the angle of the shower head…sometimes I like it facing down, sometimes I like it at a broader angle. Sometimes I jack with the stream type, too; I have one of those detachable shower heads with all kinds of water pressure options.

And may I just say that Mr. Levins actually gets annoyed that I leave the shower on, vs. shutting off the shower so that the water diverts to the faucet and then turning it off? I don’t get this at all; we never take baths…we always take showers…so why does it make sense to leave it on anything but the shower?

Oh, that’s right. So you can climb in and test the water temp with your toes before turning on the shower. B/c that makes so much sense. :rolleyes:

He’s a freak.

[sub]I love him to pieces, though. Toe-testing freak that he is. :D[/sub]

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We’re 45 degree angle people, too. Also, we both enter near the nozzle because the toilet is on the other side.

However, he turns on the shower before he gets in, whereas I step into the tub/shower first, and then turn it on (if I do it the other way, I make a mess.) And, yeah, I do test it with my toes. I would be very disconcerted if someone left the thing in the “shower” position so the water shoots out right when I turn it on. That’s just wrong.