This really does need to have a solid term. I’ll offer: “Off Their Nuts”, “Aggin’ the Bag”, ( I like this one: “Yeesh, Buddy, you really are Aggin’ the Bag lately” Rhymes enough with On the Rag, plus, I just made it up this very precious moment.) Others:
" dickuititude", and , in a more sensititive manner, just “having a testosteronefest”.
dnooman: a very honorable reply here, and I hope your huevos settle well, now.
Gee, it’s not possible he really meant it as an insult at the time and is, y’know, apologizing for it? Like he says?
I, of course, could be wrong. If anyone can spot an asshole, it would be a pro such as yourself.
Well, I was actually just directing that post to Beware of Doug, had I done it in a PM, the intent of that post would have been fulfilled. However, the result of my putting that comment in the thread was that everyone saw it, including the OP. My first post there was pretty mean, and the subsequent posts were not any better.
I didn’t mean it to be a direct insult to the OP, but that’s exactly what it turned out to be because it would have clearly been seen by her. Attacking someone’s physical appearance, is really a low blow, often that’s not something that they can control. Dissing Burning Man and the type of person that attends might offend the OP somewhat, but making a personal attack on her appearance, even if it wasn’t meant to make her feel bad, could be emotionally damaging. That’s not cool at all.
FTR, if Sandy Hook reads this again, I have seen countless sets of boobs that are inferior to hers. Some of those boobs were on people whose job it is to show them.
I opened an apology thread recently, and aside from the fuck-you-drama-whore pile-on, one word of advice was that the apology might have been more appropriate in the thread where the offense occured. That may apply here as well.
I did provide a link to this thread in the thread where my offense occurred. I thought it would be that much more of a distraction to the OP’s original intent had I posted my apology in its entirety there.
I’m kind of surprised by the lack of “fuck-you-drama-whore pile-on” posts here. I’ve been much more of a dick recently than I usually am, and I thought a few people might welcome the opportunity to highlight my other shortcomings, and indiscretions.
There is a slight ulterior motive to this thread though. I do have a genuine desire to know what I’ve done that has really pissed people off. I want to know this so that I can internalize it, and hopefully prevent it from happening again. It’s never been my goal or desire to be the dickhead or asshole in any situation. I’m not going to let someone treat me like shit without responding in kind, but that’s defensiveness, not offensiveness.
I can take, and pretty much welcome constructive criticism. If I’ve been an asshole, I can certainly take all of the anger-filled replies with a sense of humility.
There have been numerous occasions where I’ve made statements that I regret having made. On several of those occasions, I would not have been surprised if I had been pitted. On most of those occasions, I would probably not have found much to disagree with as far as what the OP was saying.
This addition to my OP here, is more likely to attract accusations of attention whoring, or martyrdom, but that really doesn’t bother me. I don’t feel any need for me to put any level of restriction on the level of honesty that I convey here.
I wish to see the boobs in question…for research purposes of course.
Why? Aim higher! If you are going to research, you should scour the internet for the perfect set of boobs! The rack to end all racks. The perfect combination of size, drop, swell, and nipple placement.
I can see you’re an eager researcher! Get to it, man!
(I got nothin’. In the humor. In the boobs…I gots those. Which I will not be flashing on the boards.)
I feel a poll coming on.
Lack implies an absence. I think you need a different word.
Well, I think that’s sort of the point. You’ve been much more of a dick recently than you usually are. So people are going to cut you a lot more slack than someone who’s always a dick. Plus, of course, apologies disarm people who are predisposed to like you anyway.
If you want specifics, the skunk sex was way, way out of line, I thought. I thought at the time that there was something else, like alcohol, alien abduction or perhaps PCP involved. (Not to accuse, mind you - it just seemed so very not you that I couldn’t grok it enough to form a coherent Pit about it. Seriously, I started, and I got as far as “WTF?” and couldn’t think what else to say about it.)
The overarching theme of your recent dickishness seems to be things you think are bitingly, sarcastically funny in the moment, but they read as mean spirited and insulting to the rest of us. (This is the same form my dickishness usually takes, by the way.) So maybe you want to start walking away from your “funny posts” for a few minutes or an hour before hitting Submit Reply. If, in that time and on Preview you still want to say it and think it’s still funny and not just mean, then go ahead. But I usually find it’s those “Ha ha, this’ll slay them with my rapier wit!”-Click! posts that, in another 10 minutes, I’d see it wasn’t funny at all, just dickish.
Funny/Dickish is a very fine line in a written medium, and quick-wit can often lead you astray when you’re in the midst of “having a testosteronefest.”