TN*hippie: No, he doesn’t need coaching. He’s very good. Trust me And he is the one more troubled by it because, in the same vein as others have said, he feels guilty (like he’s just being self-serving) and probably a bit responsible.
My opinion on why is that I think I’m just not wired that way. tomcat you said your wife gets almost there and just needs that extra help. Well, that’s not really what it’s like with me. If feels good, but not in the same way at all.
He thinks it is a psychological barrier 'cause I’m still getting used to being comfortable with sex. (and Zebra… hahahah… no, I suppose I just worded it wrong. He’s the only one for me.) He also things that my explanation is something for me to hide behind 'caus eI don’t want to deal with actual issues.
I’m not sure who’s right.
And I do love him and trust him completely, I’m just adjusting slowly to being comfortable with sex, I guess.
And thanks SOOOO much to all those who said I’m not the only one. That does make it feel much less like “there’s just something wrong with me” which is my usual opinion on the subject.
Oh, and I did have an honest conversation with him about it. That’s what sparked the thread.
How people orgasm during sex is influenced by how they have orgasmed before they had sex.
Therefore, the best idea is to get yourself worked up to the point of orgasm by whatever way you did before, but not actually orgasm, and then have sex right away. Hopefully this pushes you to have the orgasm during sex. It takes some practice.
This works for guys too, according to Masters & Johnson.
Okay, since you’ve share so much so far, does it last long enough for you to get there?
You have gotten alot of good advice here, and just let me add that friction is your friend.
Fantasy can be your friend also. Do you guys talk to each other at all during sex? Some people don’t.
When I first met my husband sex was a serious thing, and the first time I tried to play and talk, I got the giggles and he kind of freaked on me.
But now, he likes nothing more than to grab me up by my hair, bite on my neck, and tell me exactly what he wants to do to me, or what he wants me to do to others.*
He was the first to give me a orgasm from the inside, and I am one of those prone to have them at the drop of a hat. And over and over again.
*If you haven’t read prior posts of mine, my hubby and I have an open relationship together as well as alone. Yes, I am one of the boards top 10 deviants.
And he is the one more troubled by it because, in the same vein as others have said, he feels guilty (like he’s just being self-serving) and probably a bit responsible.