As far as a man is concerned: (and Ive never heard of a female with such problem)
I have heard that if you have problems lasting as long as you want, that you can get better by peeing and holding it - then release, then pee then release… (feel the burn). This is supposed to acording to hearsay, exorcise the muscles that close off whatever valve there is in the member… making them stronger.
Eventually you can last as long as you want.
So is this just a myth or can it work?
Sounds like you’re describing the Kegel exercise, which supposedly makes sex more enjoyable and helps stop urinary incontinece (and if that ain’t a win-win I don’t know what is). Never heard of anyone doing it while urinating, though.
While urinating is the method to first get a feel for the muscles involved. For those who aren’t too capable of controling their muscles mentally. But once you have a feel for the muscles that need to be exercised there is no need to practice while peeing.
It can be a bit hard to explain the muscles you need to clench to properly Kegel. Saying “notice which muscles you use to stop your urine stream” is a good, intuitive way to explain it.
And welcome to the boards, fishquail! There is no post editing (get into a heated GD debate, and you’ll understand why). Preview first, run it through a text editor with spellcheck, or just accept imperfection. We’re good at that.
Well…kegels alone aren’t going to turn you into a tantric master capable of lasting for 18 hours or anything, but yes, they have been known to help.
Warning though: the “ooh baby I want you all night long” thing is a horrible myth perpetuated by porn. Women (most women) don’t want you pounding away at them for more than a hour, tops. And that’s if it’s really good. After that, we start to chafe and tear, even with artificial lube. Sometimes, those moans are moans of pain!
It can work if your expectations are reasonable and you avoid drugs and alcohol. Sex while intoxicated leads to either premature ejaculation or never being able to “get there” in the majority of circumstances.
WhyNot: *. Women (most women) don’t want you pounding away at them for more than a hour, tops. *
An hour!??! Lordy, sister, you musta got you one of those new titanium linings or something. I wouldn’t want somebody continuously churning my butter for longer than, say, ten to twenty minutes. If they do a good job in other respects, that should be plenty for best results.
So fear not, fishquail, the goal is attainable. Your friend’s goal, I mean.
Special occasions only. As I said, " And that’s if it’s really good." Maybe we should emphasize that part again!
Vaginal sex just isn’t designed for women. For most women, it doesn’t feel all that great, honestly. The vagina is equivalent to the scrotum, sensory-wise. Would you be able to orgasm with nothing but a woman (or man, if that’s your thing) doing nothing but rubbing your scrotum? Maybe a few men might be able to, but most wouldn’t. Same thing for women and vaginal sex. (I’m one of the lucky ones who orgasms with vaginal. Maybe that’s why I can tolerate it longer than most!) Oral, digital (the fingers digits - put the camera away!) and other creative methods should be used to bring her to climax before you ever think of “churning her butter” (love that phrase!)
Think of it this way: If you’ve whipped her cream, the butter’s all yours. Be as quick as you like about it, 'cause she’s just waiting for the dairy to close so she can mop up and go home!
Another way to get in touch with the correct muscle groups requires a hard on. Once achieved use the muscles to wag your willy try first with a feeling of squeezing your anus shut, but later try to wag without moving anal muscles. Some manual halep may be needed in keeping hard as a soft dick is difficult to wag.
When skill is gained try sending semaphore messages to your girlfriend
As a kid with bedwetting issues that recurred just before puberty, I was advised by my doctor to do the pee-stop thing. Now, after around fifteen years, I still do it out of habit. No problems other than the occasional overspray upon resuming. I probably should stop doing it.
