part of me wonders whether this is just a self-affirmation thread now.
Vaccuous Little Twit:
here, i am, all lonely and horny, and i’m doing stupid, nasty, sweaty things because of it…whatever shall i do? btw- here are some pics of me…how could a poor, above average looking, nubile young thing like me attract anyone?
All of the Horny Single Guys:
there, there, little lady…you’re only doing these things because you don’t know how wonderful, pretty, funny, charming, etc. etc. you are! when you figure out what you really want out of life, i’m sure you’ll realize that you’re a great individual. now…wanna fuck?
there, there, little lady…you’re only doing these things because you don’t know how wonderful, pretty, funny, charming, exciting and wonderful you are! when you figure out what you really want out of life, i’m sure you’ll realize that you’re a great individual. now…wanna fuck?
I know you’re past this already, but I haven’t checked this thread in a few days.
How do you know?? I mean, honestly, only two people know what happened in each of those relationships…and neither of them will ever tell 100% of the story.
Actually, this is a very good assumption. Once might be a mistake. Twice–well, it could be lightning striking again, it does happen, but chances are the problem is originating with him. Have you heard the ex-wives’ side of the story, or just his tale of woe?
When you meet a guy (or a gal, for that matter) who just can’t seem to make his marriages work, and it’s always the other person’s fault, the best thing you can do is run like hell in the other direction. Either they’re charming when you first meet them and turn into monsters when they marry, or they’re choosing partners who play into their own problems–either way you don’t want them. It’s funny how the same problems that the exes had will seem to crop up in your relationship, too.
Now, it’s entirely possible that someone can be divorced multiple times and learn from the experiences and go on to be wonderful spouses–but I doubt very much those people are screwing twenty-two year old employees while they’re still married.
While there’s nothing shameful about needing sex, as another poster has said, needing sex isn’t quite the same as needing food or needing air. You can get by for quite some time without it. And at least for myself, I find that a sort of self-enforced celibacy is the best way to deal with a bad breakup. You really need to re-evaluate why having sex is so important to you (beyond the obvious). You need to learn to be happy with yourself so you don’t spend the rest of your life thinking jerks like this are “the one.” This guy is a prize-winning jerk–previous posters are right when they say this.
I agree with you that no experience is wasted if you’ve learned somthing from it, but I don’t think you’ve actually discovered the lesson this experience is offering. If I were you I’d take a break from dating and sex and ponder the question very, very seriously: What is there to learn from this? Because you haven’t hit on it yet.
