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Ok… so… A BUNCH OF BS… too much for just an average kid in HS to go through… (financially)

Well… It all starts like this, My parents make THE worst financial decisions ever… they are so bad with money… my mom and step dad both have full-time jobs and can’t pay bills and car payments and they get their selves in way too deep and basically all that comes down on me too… so theres the background…

A while back I got a speeding ticket… and my mom said," Just give me the money for the ticket and I’ll pay it for you." So of course, she’s my mother, I gave her the money and she payed off her car insurance instead, and never told me, and just took my mail and hid it from my that MY LICENSE GOT SUSPENDED!

So then a couple months after that, my step dad makes me take him to the airport, and well… even though his car has a two year expired license, and a broken tail light, and there was no proof of insurance in the car, and my license was suspended, and on the way back, I got pulled over…

one ticket for the tail light, one for the license plate, one for have no proof of insurance, and one for my license being suspended… (btw i had no idea)

on top of all this i work 40+ hours a week, basically i have no days off of work except for one a week, and I usually get called in anyway, and I don’t get paid that much (8.00 / hr) AND I have to go to highschool… and I have no way of getting to work or school… except by foot… I am getting so angry and I have no means of releasing it or expressing it to anyone who cares. I guess I’ll try my luck on the SDMB…

AND another thing… The girl I’m with and have been with for around 4 years… is tearing my family relationship apart just because they dug into her life and searched for things and read her diary, and found out she smoked pot… and they hate her and hate me with her and my real dad and my mom and my step dad and my family basically is disowning me because im with her and they think im going to go down a dead end road to no where and im going to nothing with my life… some adults… ahhh… my head hurts… :frowning: :mad: :frowning:

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Poor thing. Do you have another adult you can talk to about this stuff? Maybe an aunt or uncle or a close teacher? You’d be surprised how much people will help you if you just ask for it.

I don’t have any great advice, but I do know that bad times like this will pass.

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Knowing that you can’t rely on your own family sucks. Everybody is unreliable with some thing or other, but there’s things and then there’s things…
Things will get better. Best wishes and a lot of virtual {hugs}*

  • the hugs are optional, you don’t have to take them if you don’t like 'em :slight_smile:
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Wow.

And I thought my teenage years were rough.

You didn’t mention what grade you are in. Just try to get through high school and look forward to going to a college as far away as you can get. Start researching and applying for scholarships now, as it seems pretty evident your parents won’t be able to help you.

I wish I knew something to say to make it all better, but I don’t. Look on the bright side - at least you are learning first hand how not to do things when you are on your own.

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I hope this is senior year and you can get out soon, but I have a hunch from your tone that it’s not.

I sure hope you can get some scholarships, as it’s pretty darn evident that your parents won’t be able to help. Don’t rule out private schools, as public schools often can’t afford to give much aid. And apply for every darn local scholarship available. I just went through the scholarship process myself, and even if your parents make too much for you to get enough need-based aid, there’s a ton of merit based aid out there. Personally, I’m over $11,000 of merit based aid, and still waiting to hear back from a bunch of scholarships.

I’ve done the 40+ hours a week outside of school thing, too; last fall between work and extracurriculars I started school at 8 a.m. and got home at 11 p.m. Ugh. Not fun. I don’t know where you work, but save your tips if you get them and do your homework there if you have the time; that’s how I survived.

As to girlfriend trouble… I doubt there’s much advice anyone here can give. Work through it, enjoy what you can, and read The Catcher In The Rye if you need someone to understand what it feels like.