Well I told you all in another thread about my CRAZY Life right now. Well she is here. Picked her up at the airport on Sat. My husband has basically ignored me since she arrived…and I talking to a lawyer today about filing for divorce…I wanted the Truth, the answers…and I got it! It hurts yes, but I know I can never trust him agian, and that I could never stay married to someone I couldn’t trust. 
So anyway I guess this is it…I will be single and searching to find myself in about 2-3 months.
Good luck with the next few weeks.
Who’s “she?”
Curious!
“Truth knocked on the door. I said, ‘Go away! I’m looking for the truth!’ So it went away.”
Kindly link us to the other thread so we have a clue.
Thanks
She’s only got 11 posts… It’s no chore to search it up…
But since you ask so nicely… Link.
Tonight they were curled up on the couch together watching a movie, why I did laundry…what Sh*t is that! I mean…where am I??? not here 
{{Truth}}
What an asshole - and what a bitch on her part as well. I’m glad you’re getting out of this situation.
Truth, this is still your house and you’re not a servant. I suggest next time, you watch a movie while he does the laundry. Also, I have to wonder what would make a man who treats his wife like this so attractive. Doesn’t she realize that she may well be up for the same treatment? It could be interesting asking her what she sees in him.
Hang in there, rant over in the Pit when you need to, and my e-mail address is in my profile.
CJ
Uhh, Truth?
ARE YOU INSANE???
Throw a fit and kick both of these people out of your house. That, or pack a bag and get YOUR butt out of that house, and break some stuff on the way out!!!
Do not be a door mat!
Why, why, why are you putting up with this? You said in the other thread that once she leaves, he is moving out. Make him move out now. He’s not working, he brings this other woman into the home he has shared with his wife while his wife is there, he ignores you and snuggles on the couch with her? What is she thinking? Does she even know you two are married? Why should you be providing a cozy little nest for him to have an affair in? Kick him out tonight, and her with him. Let her find out how it feels to be homeless in America (you did say you wanted to see how she deals with a new world). Let her get a motel room for the two of them and see how it feels to support this loser for a while. This marriage has been over for a while…don’t convince yourself that you are being the better person by letting him do this to you. Just because you “gave your word” to allow this girl to come stay with you doesn’t mean you have to continue the agreement when the parameters change. Tell him to leave, with her, now, and he can get any of his stuff (beyond clothes and toiletries) after you’ve talked to a lawyer. Which you should do tomorrow. Stay home from work tomorrow and get the locks changed. And do not get involved with anyone else until this is all over.
Wow. Get outta there!
FUBAR!!! Do not put up with this any longer. You don’t want to stay in this situation any longer but you already know this right?
Ummm…hmmmmm…my cat’s breath smells like catfood.
Truth, if I were you I would run! run! run!
or
Lock him out! out! out!
I’m hoping the best for you. Keep us posted. (hug)
Egggggsaxtly what kittenblue said.
But I am very puzzled about ‘arseholedom’ too. Like, yeah, some people are just worthless, but I cannot imagine the complete lack of fundamental respect that your EX husband has for you, another human being. How can he be so lacking in any sort of conscience that he can bring another woman into the house to replace you, and WHILE YOU STILL LIVE THERE. I won’t start about the obvious self-respect issues that YOU have that will allow him to do what he does without consequences.
There’s a short story by an old Aussie author called Barbara Baynton called ‘Squeakers Mate’. Read it…and see how you feel about kicking shithead out THEN.
Truth, I am as outraged as the others. However, I strongly urge you to contact a good lawyer. Make sure you know your rights and are on legally firm ground before you do anything. Ask any friends who have divorced to recommend one. As a lawyer friend to recommend one, he/she will have great advice.
Truth, many people in this world are fools. Your husband is one of them. Do not allow his actions to damage your self-esteem. You are not at fault. There will be times when you may forget this, so keep reminding yourself.
You can survive this.
Truth:
What can I say? Us guys can be complete and utter b*stards, but few of us are as bad as this guy of yours. Some advice: If you work, get yourself your own bank account and put your checks in it. Don’t share your money with him. Start living for yourself (don’t shop for his meals, clothes, etc.). After he moves out, you might want to relocate. This might help with your recovery. Consider going back to school, it can do wonders for the self-esteem.
Wish you well,
nahtanoj
As I said before, you both need to make life altering decisions without outside interference. He wouldn’t be the first man on the planet to come up with some sort of whacked out scheme to make you feel jealous; or to try and push your buttons so that he gets some kind of response out of you.
Ask her to leave your home: if she won’t, tell her that you’ll cite her in divorce proceedings, even if you are bluffing. If she won’t budge, pack up her stuff and throw it into the street: change the locks. I don’t know enough about the US legal system with regards to throwing him out onto the street 
Again, best of luck to you.
I did kick them out last night…his parents can deal with her now…lmao