First you should know I’m 18 years old, 5ft 6 tall. Carry on.
I always have perfectly good relationships with members of the opposite sex - we chat, we flirt, there’s the occasional kiss if I’m lucky but - and you may have guessed this from the title - I don’t get laid. Ever. To be brutally honest with myself, I’ve never had anywhere near a serious girlfriend. On the other hand, any of my 6ft plus friends literally have girls throwing themselves at them at every opportunity, even the ones who are complete jerks. It seems that ladies just prefer a taller man. Who would be impressed if they were told they would soon meet a short, dark stranger?
Basically, this boils down to a few questions:
Have you personally found my statement to be true?
If yes, does the situation improve with age?
Would anyone - anyone - out there go for someone my size over a 6 footer?
I’ll have you know that the majority of men and women I’ve dated, both my ex-husbands, and my current SO have all been under 6’. Actually, only my first fiancee (who I later broke it off with) was over 6’.
I’m 5’4", so as long as they’re at least as tall as I am, I’m good to go.
I’m 5’8" and have been known to be a bit of a height freak. I have been known to like tall men, physically.
However, I have had boyfriends not as tall as I. It all depends on their personality. By no means is height a pre-requisite.
Would anyone - anyone - out there go for someone my size over a 6 footer?
5’6" you say? My perfect height for a guy. I am 5’1", and I don’t like the idea of having to bend my neck to talk face to face with a guy. Besides, many guys around here are about that height (or even smaller). So as long as they are taller than 5’2" but no more than 5’8", I don’t care for their exact height.
Hay-sus, man, relax. The operative statistic in your OP is not your height, but your age. Yes, the median age for first sexual experience has definitely dropped, and you are slightly on the older side of that median age. So what?
I’m 5’10". I had my first serious girlfriend six months before your current age, and first had sex a mere two months before your current age. I don’t think height was my “problem” - I don’t think there was a problem. While I really, really wanted to have sex well before then, I was still too shy and awkward around women for it to happen.
I also have had friends who had their first sexual experience much later than your current age. They seem to have suffered no ill repercussions - most of them are happily married (well, that probable ended their sex life ;)).
What’s going to stop you from having sex is obsessing about your height as the alleged reason why you’re not having sex. Let it go, let it flow, and let it happen when it happens.
Well Mr elbows is 5’4" and I’m here to tell you (before he met me) he was getting tons of action. In fact I have several close friends, male, under 5’6" all of whom were like chic magnets when they were single.
Let’s see if I can explain this to you. It’s kind of like baldness. Guys with combovers always think it’s a huge myth that women find bald men attractive.
It’s not a myth, women do find bald men sexy. But it’s not the dome that they are reacting to, really. You see, a man who is completely bald has to just ‘get over it’, move on, adjust, accept, mature. Call it whatever you want. It’s the confidence that people who have accepted themselves exude that works for bald men.
Try to remember that women are not as visual as men, sexy is about confidence more than appearance. Men like to think that money is attractive to women, but, again, I would posit that money gives men confindence, and that’s what’s attractive to women.
Shorter men are actually in a better position than your average balding man. Ain’t no combover that makes you taller so far as I know.
Basically I’m saying that accepting yourself requires maturity and that breeds confidence and that’s the only sure fire aphrodisiac I know of.
And just so you know, when it comes to character and integrity, Mr Elbows is a giant among his peers!
I am 5’5" and my husband is 4’11". He gets laid plenty.
I want to echo SuaSponte on the age thing–18 is not so old that you are a freak or something. I have a rather long rant I would be happy to go into with the slightest encouragement about how the media makes everyone feel like anyone who hasn’t lost thier virginity/had 3 serious relationships by the age of 19 must have some sort or terrible flaw (which can be fixed by buying product X). I know lots of people that didn’t get invovled in a serious relationship until thier mid-to-late 20s. There was nothing wrong with any of these people, they just hadn’t met the right type of person. I also know many people that are celibate for years at a time between relationships. Again, nothing wrong with them, they just happen to “match” with a type of person that they don’t meet that often.
I do know one guy who has basically ruined his own life because he is absolutly convinced that high school was a teen sex comedy for everyone but him and that resentment continues to fester.
Height doesn’t really matter to an average, well-adjusted woman.
Sure, it’s appealing. Hey, I like tall, dark and handsome men. But it’s the personality that counts the most. And since I’m only 5’1" myself, pretty much anything over 5’4" is tall, to me.
And besides, you’re only 18. I can guarantee that you will–you will–get laid at least once before you die. Unless you die this afternoon. Then I’m afraid you’re just SOL.
A female friend of mine who is tall (5’10", maybe 5’11") has a thing for shorter guys, I think. She seems to have been involved with guys in the 5’7"-5’9" range as much as taller ones.
And a woman under 5’5" may be relieved you’re closer to her height–and be, in some cases, incredulous that you consider yourself short. (I’ve had these conversations…)
Then again, I knew a girl who was no more than 5’ even, who dug guys over 6’.
I’m 6’4" and didn’t get laid until I was older than you-significantly older. My height definitely attracted some women, but it intimidated just as many. In fact, some women were flat-out scared of me. I would strongly agree with the people who said personality is far more important. Concentrate on becoming an intelligent, well rounded, fun person and a good listener. Be patient, and nature will take its course.
I’ve dated quite a few guys over the years. (If I had to count, more than 20 less than 50, but no, I didn’t sleep with them all.)
Out of all these guys, I have only dated 4 guys that were taller than 5’6". There was only one that really stood out, and he is 6’4", which really threw me for a loop. (You get used to being able to look people in the eyes, and then <blam> you’re looking at a belly button.)
I am 5’6", and I date people who I care about, not guys who fit into my Tallness Standards. Yes, if it was up to me, I would date someone taller than me, maybe significantly taller, but I would never refuse someone just because they were shorter/same height/taller. And yes, a lot of girls still believe you should date before you sleep with people. So don’t be suprised if you’re not getting laid all the time. It takes time to actually get to that point.
Maybe you should just move to Charleston, where I would say 80% of the male population is between 5’6" and 5’8". (Oh, and due to the colleges here, there is a 4:1 girl:guy ratio.That should brighten your day.)
I dont think its really about height. I’m 5’7" and the shortest guy I ever slept with was about 4’11" and the tallest was 6’7". I liked them both. They had alot of charisma.
The two best lays were 6’2" and 5’8". Again, it has nothing to do with height. I was in love with one… and the other had this tongue… drool
Uhm… where was I?
Oh. Right.
Charles Manson was somewhere between 5’5" and 5’8" and he got it every which way to Sunday during his time with “The Family”.
Well, I’m glad to see the general sentiment from the SDMB women. However, as a 5’5" 31-yr old who’s totally comfortable with himself, I can say that, while I have been intimate with women, I can’t say I’ve been intimate with lots of women. IMO, the female population at large tends to ignore shorter guys. I think only the upper crust don’t. This is fine… I may get less sex, but when I do get it, it’s high quality.
