My weight had always fluctuated and I never had problem until I started working for this company. People comment on other people weight like nothing. The thing is I don’t like people commenting on my weight weather it goes up and down. I would prefer they keep they are observations to themselves .I know that losing weight is considered a compliment so when people comment I just say thanks and leave it that.
Now its getting to a point where some people are complaining that you are getting too skinny and not too lose anymore weight. These comments makes me feel uncomfortable and I find them just as offensive as weight gain comments that I received when I gained weight. These people are on my case all the time about stopping losing weight. I am not actively trying to lose more weight but my weight has dropped without trying. Maybe I am not eating enough but then that’s my business
Have you tried politely asking people not to comment about your weight because it makes you feel uncomfortable?
I don’t know about your situation, perhaps they are concerned about a sudden weight loss, or perhaps they think they are complementing you. I don’t think comments about weight loss would bother most people, but comments about weight gain might. No matter what the situation is, whatever reason these people are commenting, they may be totally unaware of your discomfort. It’s not really appropriate workplace conversation, but in a close group of people it may happen and unless you voice your objections your co-workers may have no idea how it’s affecting you.
This is not an issue for HR. I agree with TriPolar that you need to speak up and tell people in a kind way that you would prefer that they not comment on your weight. Part of the problem is that not everyone has the same opinion regarding weight comments. Some people, particularly those who are proud of losing weight, want others to compliment them. Other people just enjoy discussing weight issues, in the same way that some people enjoy discussing sports or T.V. shows. You need to let people know where you fall (not wanting your weight discussed at all), and be firm if they bring it up again (“I’m sorry, I don’t want to discuss it.”) Trying to defend yourself or argue with them will only draw you further into the discussion.