It’s good you’ve changed plans, but let me add that clothing is just about the worst gift you can give to someone unless you know here extremely well (meaning know her whole wardrobe, her tastes, and have even shopped with her). Not only don’t buy this dress, but don’t buy any other piece of clothing that might strike your fancy.
If you two marry, then one day you can consider it. Maybe. My own mom had awful taste and couldn’t buy things I like.
And I remember your post about being broke, too. If she knows you’re hard up for money, I doubt she’d think well of you for blowing a lot of money on a gift for her.
As a male, I sense all kinds of warning flags going up if you want to drop $300 on a dress for someone you call “this girl”. It’s out of kilter, off balance. Buy something less committed but still thoughtful to mark her birthday and continue to cultivate what sounds like a nice relationship, and maybe next year it will be all kinds of natural to wrap such a gift around her shoulders.
Doesn’t anyone else want to see what this dress actually looks like? I know I do.
Anyway, maybe you should get her a cute necklace or some earrings. If they’re fairly inexpensive, there aren’t as many “issues” tied up with it, and you don’t have to worry about fit.
Don’t do it for these reasons: It may be gorgeous to you but she may think it’s eight types of wrong or just not her. $300 is far too much to spend on someone you aren’t in a serious relationship with.
If you’re stuck for ideas for her birthday; just ask her if she has a wishlist and pick something that’s fairly neutral. As a female, if an internet friend, however close, gave me a $300 dress, I’d send it back. It’s too damn weird really.
Auto - that’s a hellava lot of money to spend on someone you’re not dating. The nicest thing online someone ever did for me was to make an animated gif of their hand signing “You rock so fucking much”. It was cute and quirky and personal.
NO! NO! NO! not the dress!
Send her something from your life, a fave baseball cap, or a nerdy.nifty key chain.
I am not being “cheep” here. I am being realistic. She wants two things, 1) to get to know you, and 2) to see that you are enjoying getting to know her.
Something personal, even "used’ says “this is a part of me… I hope you like it.” A nice, but expensive dress is a crap shoot at best, and carries many unspoken ideas … go with something “me to you”
You are in Orlando, right? You have easy access to the best gift ever. Get her one of those Mickey Mouse Club hats with her name embroidered on it (you know, the beanie with the ears). Anyone who would send me one of those would be tops in my book. It’s personal, it’s fun, it’s silly, not too expensive, and it’s something you can’t get just anywhere. (Of course, I am a 38 year old woman who wore a headband with cat ears on it to the Josie and the Pussycats movie - your maturity level may vary).
Even if you don’t like that idea, for all the reasons already stated, do not buy that dress.
(and send me one of those hats, will ya? I lost mine somewhere )
I’ve been married to Brainiac4 for eleven years. He’s seen me a hell of a lot more up close and personal than a webcam.
There is no way he could by me a sundress off the rack and have it fit. There is no way I can buy a sundress without trying it on and have it fit. Sundresses are horrible because they are built pretty much for a specific bust - don’t have it and the dress looks like crap.
Well, I officially did not buy the dress. Let me tell you what I did buy instead.
1 bar of rose soap
1 card with 9 little flowers embroidered on the front in a 3x3 grid, blank on inside and back.
1 wooden toy doll alligator
1 small vial of cherry-scented body perfume
1 red silk sack to put everything in
and probably 1 picture of myself. What do y’all think?
Oh, and I’ll upload pics of the dress-that-wasn’t once I figure out how to get them off this blasted phone.
Oh, and some more info on our budding relationship. I think the writing is on the wall (in magic marker) that we like each other. We were flirting the other day and I ended up giving her a verbal massage (because it’s a webcam), the other day and she was all smiles. We got to talking about sex somehow, and she said that she always uses a condom. I replied first that girls technically dont ‘use’ the condom, which cracked her up, and then that I hate using condoms. She said that if we have sex then I must use one. I said that, as a compromise, I will wear it but she has to put it on me. She then burst into this huge grin and laughed for about a minute straight. We then resumed talking about more normal things until I got sleepy.
Crossing my fingers that everything keeps on going well!
I saw a news story about Sponge Bob being marketed as the next Big Thing for young women in Japan, how 20-somethings were flocking to buy anything Square Pants.
If a man buys me clothes, it means he wants to take me out of them.
And if a man buys me clothes and they’re the right size, he better be my husband. Heck, if he’s not my husband, he’ll be it so fast he won’t know what happened. And I’m not even particularly interested in marriage but hot damn, that would be an amazing find!
If I am dating someone on the Internet, can I date someone else? Can I have a real GF and date someone on the Internet? Is it implied that Internet dating leads to real life dating?
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