For me, I met my last GF on the internet too so I guess this makes me an expert, and we definitely had a “this will lead to ‘real life.’ no ‘real dating’ allowed until then.” We had a real love/infatuation thing going on and ended up doing everything sexually possible on a webcam.
As for my current circumstance, we are definitely more than friends now, but I dont know if we’re dating. I mean… we kiss dolls (plushies) and joke around that we’re kissing each other, and things like that, so we definitely would be dating if we were in person. We’re in a very awkward, very shy, but very fun phase.
The best way I can put it is that internet dating is very awkward, and not for the faint of heart. The only thing keeping me going is that we’re planning a visit or maybe an extended stay soon.
Oh, and as for those following my life story (seems to be a few), my current ‘life plan’ is to save up my money here in Florida, then spend my summer in Japan (with this girl if it works out), and then return and finish my schooling at Boston College. After that we’ll see.
Per the dress photo, I have been lazy and also forgot people wanted to see it. You have my word that I will get it off the phone today or tomorrow.
I met a girl on the internet about 13 years ago. We emailed each other all the time and talked on the phone often. I assumed that it would turn into more and that the only thing keeping us apart was the fact that she lived 3000 miles away. I bought her a rare vinyl record. It was very hard to find and cost $200. I sent it to her. Radio silence. After a week she called and told me that she couldn’t keep the record because she had a girlfriend. I told her to keep it anyway.
I met my next girlfriend on the internet too. She also turned out to not be exactly who she seemed to be. I have come to the conclusion that you can’t really know anybody until you have spent a lot of time with them in person.
My father, a nearly 70-year-old man, told me a few days ago that he pretends to be someone else on the internet. If my father, a man who never used a computer until he was 66, has made up an alternate identity can you really trust anyone?
My point, if I have one, is: don’t buy the dress. You don’t know this girl yet.
I’m glad you didn’t buy that dress. When you said it was a sundress, I was thinking something a lot more ‘summer’—bare arms/shoulders. This is the dificulty of buying clothes for some one else—you find it a beautiful dress but I do not and your online friend might find it a beautiful dress or she may not.
Good grief, no. You are smart to listen to the people who said not to buy the dress. It’s a nice garment, but the only time you should be buying clothing for the girl in your life without her being physically present is if you are engaged/married/shacked up together, and you have personally seen her try it on and decide that it fits. Then and only then, if you were clever enough to note the exact size and color, you can go back to get one and surprise her with something she wanted but decided she didn’t have the funds for. Otherwise the odds that it will turn out well are about a bajillion to one. Keep the receipt anyway, just in case.
Since you seem sure that you’re really internet-dating and not just internet-flirting, the bag of goodies you got her sounds excellent. It’s cute and maybe a little bit naughty, and hopefully she’ll think of you every time she’s standing in the shower using your birthday soap. Good luck!
If you like the dress that much, you can always just buy it and squirrel it away for later. Though that may potentially result in an awkward situation if it were ever discovered in your possession.
I note the OP has already said that he’s not buying the dress, but one more vote for no - not for the expense or the risk of having it not fit. Rather because I get a slightly creepy “controlling” vibe about buying a dress for girl you have never met in person - as in telling her what you expect to wear. (shopping togother is a different story)
Note: this is TastesLikeBurning’s partner (not TLB).
Just had to chime in to say that like others I agree that it is a good move to not actually purchase the dress at this very early point in your relationship. However as a frequent dress wearer I think it’s a cute dress and is actually a style that could look good on a variety of body types so nice spotting anyway. I think it’s sweet that it caught your eye and that you even thought of buying it. Maybe later on down the track…
I have been married for 25 years. nearly everything I bought my wife has been taken back and exchanged. And then almost all of them went back for exchange again . Don’t do it.
okay, its not nearly as sexy as i thought, I retract what I said about wanting to buy her lingerie. Its cute, but unless she’s someone who really appreciates designer labels, its not worth $300. So add that to everyone else’s reasons why this isn’t the best idea.
I read the whole thread, and I wanted to reiterate one more thing people have said - I would run, not walk, from someone who bought me anything worth $300 that early on in a relationship.
We appreciate your desire to contribute, however, if in the future you wish to continue doing so, please create your own account. We prohibit sharing of an account.
Good luck!
