Should I complain that I was basically called a slut?

complain?
My boyfriend is a manager for a popular hotel chain in a larger city with a small city feel. THey have treated him awfully (bad GM). One day we were off work at the same time and road together so I went to his work so we could leave. He needed to quickly finish some paperwork so he took me to his office while he finished it. His office is in open view for any employee who walks by (it s not tucked away in a corner) and he was behind his desk while I was seated on a bench on the other side right next to the door, which anyone could see into and which we left open.

Another employee lied to his GM saying we shut the door, which we did not. His GM called him in and told him this and they both went back to look at the cameras and see that we never shut the door. My boyfriend was going to get in trouble but when the GM found out the girl lied he did nothing (he is very sexist against men and loves women, it was a pretty well known that he was sleeping with his assistant)

So this employee basically called me a slut, insinuating that I would sleep with my boyfriend in his office during the day with employees everywhere. Should I complain to corporate? I don t work for them and am basically just like any other resident of this city or possible customer of this hotel and was basically called a slut. I would never do anything like that and I m offended that anyone would even say that or have that associated with me every time I walk in there! What should I do?

Yes, that will definitely improve things at work for your boyfriend.

As near as I can tell from this account, the employee didn’t call the OP anything at all. The employee, for whatever reason, reported to the GM that an office door was shut. Apparently the GM verified that the door was not shut, so nothing in particular happened. I do wonder why the offices have doors at all, as there seems to be some sort of prohibition on shutting them. I’m also curious why all the employees at this hotel seem to have it in for OP’s boyfriend. In any event, the only thing the OP need do, IMO, is make sure the office door stays open when she’s there.

And let the air out of the reporting employee’s tires when no one is looking. Kidding!

Any place that has camera surveillance on the managers offices will undoubtedly have cameras in the employee parking area, too. So just follow her car to a shopping area, and do it there.

You weren’t called a slut. Your boyfriend isn’t permitted to be behind a closed door with you at work. End of story.

Even if her insinuation were true, that doesn’t mean she was calling you a slut.

I’m confused. Who’s the OP calling a slut, the GM or the assistant?

I think the assistant because she lied about the door being closed.

If shutting doors is all it takes to insinuate sluttish behaviour, the world has gone to hell in a handbasket. Surely there has to be more to an accusation than that.

If you live in a culture where getting up to hanky panky with your boyfriend makes you a slut, you live in a different world to me. Not that I’m saying you were engaging in hanky panky with your boyfriend (as I understand it you were not) but nonetheless…

How have “they” treated your boyfriend "awfully’ if they saw the CCTV footage and accepted his version of events??

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I would call her a good sport.

I’m a slut and feel insulted that the OP is implying there’s something wrong with me.:frowning:

The insinuation of slutty behavior comes not from hanky panky with the boyfriend, but hanky panky in a public workplace which is inappropriate. However, the assumption that sex is taking place merely because the office door is closed says volumes about the work atmosphere at that particular job. I would seek employment elsewhere if that’s feasible.

What does your boyfriend want to do? He’s the one who works there, and has to see those people practically every day.

You weren’t called a slut. Your boyfriend was being called unprofessional.

This is true, although I can understand the girlfriend feeling insulted by the situation. Because she’s not an employee, there’s nothing further to be done without causing job troubles for her boyfriend. But his work environment sucks. Pity for him.

And leave all of the hanky panky???

Given that you were able to prove that you aren’t a slut, via the CC showing that the door was open, I don’t think you need to do anything.

Why did the other employee feel the need to report a closed door? That seems rather petty, even had it been true. Is there some history there?

In any case, welcome to the SDMB.

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Regards,
Shodan

I think you should sleep with every man at your boyfriend’s place of work except the boss! Including all the male guests. THAT will teach that biased-against-men GM a lesson!

And hey, great first post!